Hot & Bothered

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Brothers and sisters, lovers and sinners, artists and exhibitionists,

lawyers and connoisseurs. All you children is sex. We are all children of sex

with a capital X. Can I get an amen? Amen! Can I get an A? Women. Amen!

Yes, indeed, brothers and sisters, we may or may not be children of God. Jesus. Allah. Marilyn Monroe.

Or, you know, the great Satan. Mazda. Or the goddess. Or Rolls-Royce. Rolls-Royce was a god? I know Mazda was a Sumerian man. Let's not get too deep.

Sorry, sorry. Because we don't know. We could argue about that, whether we are Mazdas or Rolls-Royces, or, you know, children of Jesus, or Adonai Elohenu, Adonai Ehad, or Allah. We could argue about that. Buddha. Oh, I got a Buddha here. I'm into all the religions, you know.

I worship all the gods and goddesses. Even the pigs. I'm going, Happy, you're the pig. The little piggies. Yes, and we could be children of pigs. Not really thinking of the Trump crime family, but, you know, if you are, great.

Anyway, we're children of all kinds of things, but we don't know about those things. We don't know about those gods and goddesses. We don't know about those phenomena beyond our wisdom. What we do know is we are all children of sex.

Sex is what brings us into the world, and sex is what motivates us to stick around for a while, you know. And like Freud said, Freud, are you Freud? This is an adorable little bonobo given to me by Danielle Watts and Chef B.Live. I think Jacob Sokoloff found it in a swap meet, and I call him a bonobo.

Maybe he looks more like a common chimp, but he's not a monkey because he doesn't have a tail. So he's very smart, which is why he has a graduation cap on and a diploma. I wonder if he's getting his PhD. And probably this is a she, because bonobos empower the females.

Bonobos make the males very happy with all these sex-smart females. And bonobos make peace through pleasure in all kinds of weather. Yes, indeed. And there are kissing cousins, but it's not like there are mothers and fathers. Our mothers and fathers had sex. They were human beings, and they had sex, and that's why we're here.

And that's what we talk about on this show. Are you talking about sex to someone on your computer? Sunshine McWayne. No, I was trying to volume down.

Assistant to the Doctor. On the Doctor. Susan Block Show. This is Sunshine McWayne. Brothers and sisters, lovers and sinners. My parents curved out for me to be here, too.

Yeah, yeah, yep, yep. Hopefully it was an enjoyable thing. I'm not guaranteeing that the sex was orgasmic for the woman, that is. Probably for the guy, although sometimes you come before you're going as a guy, and you don't really enjoy it because you're so nervous because you're doing it at a young age.

But hopefully, yeah, there's pleasure. Pleasure is the key to the bonobo way. Yeah, and pleasure is something that we really denigrate a lot in our society. So if you want to talk about pleasure or the problems you might have with your pleasures, you can give us a call at 1-866-289-7068.

And that number is toll-free. And if you want, you can call our regular number anywhere in the world. 626-461-5950. Yes, indeed, even if you think you're a complete zero, give us a call.

Actually, if you think that, you really should give us a call. Because maybe we can help. I don't know. And it's free. It's free. Not like when you call my institute, which is top dollar. So it's worth it.

But if you want to talk for free, you could do that. And we're here for you. We're live tonight on Dr. Susan Block.TV. So let's talk about what's on your mind.

What's in your heart. And what's between your legs. Not that I can open my legs on the Facebook camera. Hi, Facebook camera. Marquis Z is very sensitive about that.

I know. Marquis Z. I like that. Marquis Z. And I got to, you know, kind of give some props to Facebook this week because they had censored my post on our chef be live and Danielle Watts breach, not breach, storm, storm the Bastille. We're going to be doing some breaching on another show shortly on a sex calls show.

But this is about them storming the Bastille. And honestly, there is some real explicit storming on this fantastic show every time Danielle and be live are on. But we don't show that on the Facebook. And certainly, well, not on the Facebook camera, not on the pictures, but they, you know, they took it down and they put me in Facebook jail.

Jail, I can't get out. No bail in Facebook jail. Well, actually, maybe some people can bail themselves out. I mean, maybe it depends on who you know. You can talk to us.

So I appealed and I won. It was unbelievable within 24 hours because I've appealed many times when they've done things like this and they don't answer me. It's like nothing. We're not going to tell you what's wrong. They put the pictures back up in all their rouge, blank and blue glory.

And they also gave me the keys to the jail and I stepped right out and into the Facebook world. And then I realized why Facebook drives me crazy. No, I mean, I like being on it. It's true. It drives me crazy.

But everybody's on it right now until you people make a stand. Revolution, relove, ocean and get on to something more sex positive. But thank you Facebook and Facebook even apologized to me. I was really touched.

They said they were sorry. Thank you Facebook for saying you're sorry. You don't know that means a lot to me. I don't think you've ever said that to me.

And I really appreciate that. I do. And they censor art constantly. Well, they do.

They don't know the difference. I'm not trying to say that that's something that they've stopped. They are continuing to censor. And, you know, I know the right wing complains a lot about their few people that are censored,

but mostly they censor progressive sex maniacs like me. They censor because of sex, you know, and not we're not talking about full on explicit. I think they thought my piece, my post was too racy because I was sucking a big baguette. Right.

And so was Danielle. And I'm not talking about the lives, although he's got a pretty big picture. That happened a little bit. But that didn't happen on Facebook.

The Facebook cameras were gone. That wasn't a plagiarism. A sausage. Meat product.

Meat product. But gets our phallic. Get over it. A lot of things are.

It's what makes our world fun. Okay. So. Yes, indeed.

If you want to give me a call. You can. At. What is it?

1-866-289-7068. Or 626-46159-50. Thank you. There you go.

And also, you know, we're checking out your Facebook comments if they're good. If it's more than just high. More than just high. It's a legitimate question or a legitimate comment or like.

It could be about the heat. Yeah, even about the heat. We're hot and bothered tonight. It's very hot here in LA.

And from what I understand, it's hot in Oklahoma. And a lot of other places. And, you know. Give me a shoulder.

What about Chee Chee? Oh, there. Oh, yeah. Feels good.

I'll even do it to myself. Don't shoot yourself. Don't shoot your water pistols at yourself. Because it's hot.

Oh, I guess we're getting likes for that. Oh, wow, shooting the Chee Chees. Cheers, for sure. We're getting wet and wild because we're hot and bothered.

And if you're a little hot and bothered, you could post something about your temperature on Facebook. That's right. We got so hot we went to a pool party yesterday.

We went to Goddess Phoenix's pool party. And it was really quite amazing. She has a lovely house, but she's really turned it into a home.

We'll have pictures on the blog. And it, you know, it's amazing. She can now add the term homemaker to her list of many accolades, like female bodybuilder, glamazon.

She won the Susie Award three years in a row for most dazzling Dom. And she turned this house into a home within three weeks. And I'm a little bit jealous.

I'm an admiration and awe. And yeah, I still haven't put my wardrobe away. It's actually serving as curtains for the show. So, yeah, you know, she is right there with her move.

We are still in the process of moving in. It takes a lot. Hers is more of a move in place. And it has a pool.

It's not as big as Bonoboville, of course, but it has an amazing pool. And actually the most amazing thing is the big unicorn inside of the pool. And watching femdoms frolicking in the nude.

And I got to take pictures of some of them, which I will show on my blog, my journal, not on Facebook because you guys don't get to see nude stuff. Sorry.

So, hot femdoms frolicking in the nude and house boys in leather collars. Wow, white leather collars. Yes.

Yes, indeed. Very hot. So, can somebody pass me a note about what I think should be going on now, but isn't?

Okay. Okay. Okay, just let me know where we're at and if I should kind of do something else

or if we're about to do it. Yeah. So... Anybody interesting there?

Anybody we know? Who's Jim Quest? Jim who? Jim Quest.

He knows you. Doctor, you have my monkey heart in throbbing, LOL. There's a lot of people. That you have their monkey heart in throbbing.

Okay. Okay, well, I have my monkey so heart in throbbing he fell off my desk. He just got excited and lost it.

He has a heart diploma. The diploma looks a little phallic. So, okay. I guess we're ready for our Skype caller.

Oops, this fell off. Okay, Anna, you can get it for me. I don't know, my headdress fell apart. Ooh.

So, this is Anna. Anna is here wearing her Dr. Susan Block Show shirt and she is going to fix my millinery issue. Thank you very much, Anna.

And now I see the lovely Gail. Can I say your last name, Gail? Oh, yes, absolutely. Okay, let's climb those stairs.

The Stairmaster, Gail. Gail Stairs. That's right. I like those stairs.

Where somebody's staring at you. No, it's just like you said, yeah. Just like up and down the stairs. So, welcome to the Dr. Susan Block Show.

This is your first time getting on the show. You're in New York. Is that right? Are you in New York?

Yes, I am in New York. Literally, it's live from New York. It's Saturday night. It's Saturday night.

Right. Yes, indeed. Do you know about that? Yeah. And you're both comedians.

You are both comedians with an emphasis on the ends. And so, you know, it is live Saturday night from New York. It is. And this is Gail and she's an acrobat and a singer as well.

As being a comedian and a model, but we're all models nowadays. All the selfies. If you have a phone and you're on Instagram, I'm an IG model. Right. We're all models.

But we are not all acrobats and we are not all singers. And Gail is very good at both. That's right. So, I don't know if I've left someone out or something out,

but you're also a friend of Daniel and be live. And I'm using the Bonobo to represent them tonight because they're not here, but they were here last week. They're my honeys.

I love them. So great. Yeah. Have you met them in person or are you just Facebook friends? Actually, no, we've met in person.

Last year, they came to hang out with me in Brooklyn. Nice. So you're not just in New York. You're in Brooklyn or not.

Or she's frozen. She's frozen right now. She's frozen in Brooklyn. But we're going to bring her back to life, ladies and gentlemen.

I bet that feels good. The freezing. Probably feels good because it's so hot. Here we are.

This is us. We're relaxing. We're relaxing for Gail to come back on. Gail.

Yay. Welcome back. You have fans who are asking where you are. Not that we want geographical coordinates to come over,

but they want to follow you in Brooklyn or Manhattan. Brooklyn. Yeah. I might move to Manhattan though.

We'll see. I lived in Manhattan when I first lived here. Really? How'd you acquire that place?

All right. Well, you know, Brooklyn's got more soul. Thanks. So you have a lot of soul as well as your talent.

You seem like a soulful kind of individual. Thank you. A good human, a caring human. I don't know if you want to talk about your career, your life,

your sex life, where we should start. Anywhere you want to. Anywhere I want to. Well, I am the host.

I'm trying to throw the ball in your court. Exactly. Okay. So were you born in Brooklyn?

No, I was born in Chicago, Illinois, but I only lived there until I was two and a half. And then I moved to Florida and then Texas. And I lived all over the country and all over the world

for a little while. And New Jersey is where I went to high school. Oh really? Where in New Jersey?

I just turned 34. Where in New Jersey? A little town called Flemington, New Jersey. Oh, do you know Flemington, Max?

Max went to school in Montclair, New Jersey. We all know we're two Jersey people here. Two Jersey people. Definitely nowhere.

We used to play Montclair in football. You beat Montclair in football. You beat Montclair, what year was that? Because nothing was new there.

I don't know if we ever actually beat you guys. I'm pretty sure that we used to play Montclair. I was in the marching band. I was in marching drum line.

Captain of the drum line. Did you go to band camp? I did. But ours was not a sleepway band camp

because I guess somebody figured that out at one point. That's not a good idea or something. I don't know. Oh, wow.

But I did. I went to band camp. You know, I didn't even see that until I graduated high school,

but all my friends had seen it. I was like, I wonder what they're talking about with the whole band camp thing. I had to ask somebody actually.

Band camp is a very important rite of passage place. Keep it on there for a minute. Which brings us to the sexual theme. But we might get into some other things

and then go into the sexual theme. I mean, well, you came to New York to seek your fortune or as a renaissance woman?

Pretty much, yeah. Actually on paper, I was a musical theater major at Pace University. And I just figured if I could get here,

then I could make everything else happen. Something like that. And then, of course, I've been doing radio all my life

and television. I'm also a professional ballet dancer and jazz dancer. That can make you confused, though.

Like, what do I spend my afternoon working on? Ballet? Except when one thing is picking up,

you just focus on whatever you can focus on. You can take ballet every day. You can sing every day. You know?

You sang for me. You sang a little song. A very beautiful voice. And I love your acrobatics as well.

I've seen you do some... Oh, good. Okay, let's have a look. Show her on here doing

the leg behind the neck with the foot. Oh, the foot. For the foot fetishes out there.

You are a pretzel. I am. I actually randomly got a gig once as a Cirque du Soleil contortion trainer

through my... Yeah. To the lead, actually, for the Cirque du Soleil show called

Oh, but I've never had any training in that. I just sort of learned, yeah. Cirque du Soleil. Don't encourage me.

I'll try that after the show and I'll just get stuff. And you'll break your leg. Yeah, I'll break a leg.

And then I'll be like, it's okay. I have another one. You have comedy in common, not the acrobatic yoga.

That's me with a spare. Right. Do you ever combine them? Do you ever do the acrobatic yoga

on stage at a comedy club? Oh, yeah. As a matter of fact, I did that tonight. I was at the comedy cellar.

I was... I was just playing music and I walked in and I was waving and they were waving at me.

So I just started doing tricks, like waving, you know. I did like my leg in the air and then I waved them with my foot, you know. And then he asked me to come over

and do an impromptu like contortion show and I was like, yeah, sure. So I did. And he played Wipe Out

and I also had my own television show. I'm the first female on Adult Swim to air original content on Adult Swim TVS.

I did all on that show too. Singing, dancing, acrobatics. You should email me a link or direct message me a link.

I'll include it in the blog. Write that down. Yeah, Adult Swim. Or I'll write it down.

Yeah, I want to definitely put that in the blog because, you know, I went swimming yesterday. I don't know, it's hot.

It's summertime. All adults want to swim. Yes. I'm going to put that away into a sex question.

Do you ever use your contortions in sex? Oh, absolutely, yeah. Incorporate, yes.

Okay. Can we get a link to that too? Just for research purposes only. That would be fun.

There are times in my career when I thank God that my mother's been taken from us, you know. Wow, that's quite a...

That's funny. Segway, yeah. Has she really, or is that just a pure joke? Is she still...

No, she's gone, yeah. Hi, Mom. Hi, Mom. Some gals I know, their moms are just

totally symbiotic with them. Is that your relationship with your mom or do you have separate interests? So when she was alive,

we fought a lot. We did not really get along. Except for when I did a really good job on stage.

Then she was... Oh, can you hear me, Dr. Block? Yes, I can. The only thing I didn't hear was

that she passed away. So she liked when you performed. Wow, that's a little bit of pressure, isn't it?

Yeah. So, honestly, once I got the hang of it and figured out how to... I don't know if you guys have ever

heard of Abraham Hicks, you put yourself in the right vibration and you can achieve anything. And once you know how to do it,

then it seems like once you figured it out that was all that you needed. Does that make sense? You know, it doesn't really have to.

But it works for you. And I can appreciate that. So... Okay.

So are you in any kind of romantic relationship now? Yes, I am. Sort of off and on.

Okay. Is he or she? Is it he or she or they? It's a he.

Oh, just a he, actually, yeah. Just a he. So kind of vanilla. But I can empower everyone

that I can and wish to. Absolutely. That's why I give you a choice of pronouns. Thank you.

Yeah. But this is a he and does he live in Brooklyn or he does? No, actually.

Well, he lives in New York City. Maybe I should say it like that. Okay.

And you don't always get together as much as you want or do you just feel like that's enough? Well,

I guess in the last few years, I've been with... I mean, it always kind of seems like my relationships kind of end all the same way.

But maybe not. I don't know. We see each other on and off. Sometimes we get together,

but I guess, I don't know, it's sometimes here it's weird. People don't necessarily want to commit, but then they do

and then they don't. I mean, it kind of makes having sex. I feel like as a woman, traditionally in the way that we understand,

like sort of difficult, if that makes sense. You know? Yeah, sex is difficult

for smart people. I mean, you have to have education, you know? Yeah. So do you want...

Do you want more sex in your life? I would love more sex in my life. I could have sex every day more than once if I was allowed.

That's impressive. You love sex. Tell us more. What kind of sex do you love?

There are many kinds of sex. Yes. I love most of all being connected to someone and the trust.

Orgasmic sex is my favorite. Having an orgasm and your partner having an orgasm. You seem like a giving person.

I don't know, I'm assuming. Yeah, definitely. I want all of it. I want to feel everything that's associated

with the person that I love, you know, and trust and that wants to be with me and stuff like that.

And when's the last time you had that kind of thing? A couple of months ago. Oh, okay, with this guy?

Yeah. Oh, okay. All right. That's not bad.

I mean, you can't have that kind of like wild, crazy sex all the time. I think you'd exhaust yourself.

And it would probably lose its luster, right? If it happened all the time? Well, yeah. You know, it's sort of...

You can't keep going like that forever. Unless you've just fallen in love, then it can last forever. Well, that is two years, maybe.

That you're crazy for each other and having crazy hot sex. How long have you been with your guy? Off and on for about two...

Off and on for about a year, I guess, I would say. So you might still be in that phase of...

I like to think so. Well, here's the thing. What do you think he thinks? Sorry, go ahead.

I was going to say, sorry, what do you think he thinks? We're all waiting. We're waiting to hear what he thinks.

I want to hear all of this. I mean, I... Not take advantage of what a hot, orgasmic woman you are

that can get into these contortions. That means so much to me. It really does. Thank you.

It's just that, I mean, I've never really... I mean, I guess he's bottom line.

He said that he's busy and he doesn't want to get into a really... a committed relationship

but then he does, so... Is he a comedian too? Yes. And he's trying to

be live from New York Saturday night? Well, actually, he's pretty successful already. He's got his own thing going on.

He's definitely a very, very successful guy, very famous guy. I don't know.

I think it's probably all related and I do feel like it probably has something, I mean, definitely has something to do with me. I think there might be some sort of algorithm

in... I sound so nerdy when I say that, but it's true. The whole sex thing

and not being able to connect might have something to do with me as well. You know? What do you think that has to do with you

not being able to connect? What is that related to in your life, in your mind?

I mean trust but at the same time, I am not sure. I always think that

maybe it's going to be fine the next time but then it's not. I mean, by myself,

I can have orgasms and I think maybe it's scary that I'm afraid that they're going to leave me or that

they're not telling the truth or that I will have this experience with them of having an orgasm

and then be really connected and stuff like that. Did somebody hurt you? Oh yes.

I've definitely been hurt many times. I feel like... Sorry, I'm not trying to interrupt. I feel like I've done that

what you're saying so many times. I'm scared like they're going to leave or something and I feel like when you get that head trip

too much you can actually push them to leave. You know what I mean when you get to... The law of attraction.

I think that was actually my last relationship possibly, so I don't know. But go ahead. There I am.

My video disappeared. Very often when we find ourselves with a certain type of partner it's because we're attracted

to that even if it's negative. So if you find that you're with a partner who leaves you you're somehow attracted.

I don't know if it's the law of attraction but just humans are attracted to sometimes to things that turn them on

but that aren't necessarily good for them or good for a relationship. So maybe being with a guy who's famous and exciting

and I'm sure he has a lot of fine qualities for you very funny and all of these things

that make him a success you're attracted to that but also underlying that is that he's busy.

I don't know if he's going to leave you I kind of hope he doesn't I guess I don't know how good he is for you but in any case

he does seem like the kind of guy that could leave you and he does certainly show himself to be a guy

who doesn't spend enough time with your hot self. So in a way he's already left

while he's there and that's why you've hesitated when I asked you are you in a relationship

because you're not sure if you want to describe it that way and yeah you might as well but it's still something in which

part of him is not quite there and that's also it's a turn on for you it's one of those turn ons

that maybe you want to examine a little bit and you know not beat yourself up unless you're into that for being turned on

by something that isn't so good for you because a lot of us are turned on by things that aren't good for us but getting a perspective on that

and kind of moving through life with awareness of that and compensating for that can sometimes be a good idea

so you know there is probably something else that I should tell you and that's when I get into a relationship

sometimes like if I get drunk or I I've stopped pretty much

I've gotten really really close to stopping this sleep medicine that I've been taking for a few years prescribed but still

it's caused me some of the issues right? sleep? oh my god I thought she was pooping in the bed

she's not pooping in the bed okay thank goddess right I'm glad I clarified that

okay so you're taking sleep medication yes I've actually pretty much gotten it under control

where I don't take it much anymore right we all have tough times sleeping is it like melatonin or is it

it doesn't work for me anymore not really everything kind of like I've tried so many things

you know orgasms are good for sleep I find that right max

you know an orgasm whether you have it with your partner or by yourself better with a partner

more loving I guess but if your partner's not there don't stress over that just give yourself one

and you will drift off you sound like you're good at giving yourself an orgasm you know I did this for years

I've had some practice you know I used to take sleeping pills and drinking and that's really terrible

not that I'm judging because I did it for years but I've had doctors tell me it can kill you like you're taking two to presence

at the same time you know what I mean I didn't even know what I was doing I was like well I don't sleep

and I don't sleep and I was drinking and yeah but I don't know how I survived I mean I don't do some body drinking anymore

like I do drink sometimes but not very much and well anyway the way that it usually happens with me is

or it has happened before especially with my partner is sometimes I fall asleep and I call them

or text them or you know have entire conversations that I remember or don't remember and I've done that with other people

and it's not intentional it's usually when I'm asleep I don't do those kinds of things but then of course

there's all this pent up stuff too when they start to pull away I guess and sometimes I get nervous and I'll text them a whole bunch

and then even a committed relationship that starts off wonderful like the one that I'm in

has soured over time because of things like that well I don't know if we should use your word sour yet this one

we're in it you're in it I'm not in it but I feel like I'm in it with you but in any case

what I feel is that you're so smart is she there or did she she's smart and she can certainly tell

when it's coming to that point in a relationship where he doesn't want to spend a minute with you

and therefore you start to get nervous and you need to remind yourself not to get nervous

to do things to calm yourself down and that you're great if he doesn't recognize that

that's his problem I'm saying that objectively he always tells me that he's a big fan

I'm sure he is I'm sure he's a big fan but what's the but baby but

maybe I mean so basically I'm on the precipice I mean I would say I've definitely surpassed the precipice of

you know success right now like I'm here you know which is a good thing

and I appreciate it it's just that you know I think it might have something to do with that as well

is that you know he really likes me but he doesn't want to screw up his own career as well and

but I'd rub his career yeah that's a thing I'd like to know is it just a question of time

or is it I want all the girls to think I'm available that's exactly what I was thinking this is the reason why I don't

I'm sorry I'm gonna throw it out there people might get upset this is the reason why I don't date musicians

like I used to but they're always like oh I like you but I want to stay single

in case I hit it big so I can fuck all the groupies you know

I don't know that's just the idea that came to my head and she said it too so she

must have been an idea that we both had all the groupies if he wanted you know but he's I mean he's there

like he's definitely there but I think it's more that

I think it might be like a combination of maybe he's not ready to settle down 100% but then also

I don't I don't think that let me actually start over even if that's what he's

implying I don't think that's what's going on necessarily

I think it's more in relation to that he's not 100% sure that I mean maybe he just feels like it would be better for me

to have something else I can focus on you know better for you

or better for him yeah wait wait for me

to be able to interact with him properly let's look at him as I'm not saying he's a narcissist like some people

but usually when people want more or less time

with someone they'd like to frame it that it's for your sake but it hardly ever is

it hardly ever is it's because of something in them but they don't want to talk about that

and they also like to present themselves as really nice people and maybe they are a really nice person and maybe he is

yeah okay but no you know

I think the things I've done he feels freaked out I don't and he doesn't want to feel that way

no he doesn't he loves you I love him too so much

yeah I do and I do know that he loves me too that's really nice

and it's like I know he doesn't really want to say you know kabash

do you know this phrase like I put that kabash yeah yeah sure he doesn't want to end it

right does he want to but then of course we also do work

does he say in places other people you know are you Polly

with me to affect him or you know okay

so does he want to date other people does he want to be Polly he's told me

that at times he has wanted that but then

I think it's only because he doesn't want me to take him for granted either and I know that part of that is because

you know he's been hurt in the past as well and I told him that when we first started dating it scared me a little bit

that he wanted to be so intimate so quickly but then I I was okay with it

you know like I got more warmed up and that was okay but he thought maybe it was because

I might leave him as well so that's when he started that whole bit

okay that's how old he is yeah he's

like middle he's above 48

okay and you being only like 28 oh thank you so much I'm

sorry I almost said I was 44 I'm not 44 34

I'm 34 34 okay well you look at

yeah I just turned 34 I'm doing 38 28 and he's 48

he's you know he's a substantial amount older than you not too much older we're not talking about

Trump here with Epstein's little girlfriend

that is disgusting anyway I just had to get that out I said okay

so I mean age ranges can range and certainly you're both adults and

and you know that's fine I mean can I

ask because you know we're kind of getting into this you had

approached me I mean I've approached you many times and told you how wonderful you are but then you approached me

and you know about having a conversation

and I'm just wondering if we're having that conversation about

definitely we are okay so there's nothing else you're trying to talk about before?

I mean I would be honored to be healed by you Dr. Block I think you can if anybody can what is your

ailment sister Gail Gail what are you I mean you sound like

you just have a little bit of neurosis with the boyfriend is that all

I mean you you feel like you have an abandoned complex and then you find people who

he doesn't sound like he's abandoning you but he he doesn't like you feeling so bad about him

you know being such a free agent so anyway I don't like that

yeah I mean you know what I've told him though I've here's the thing too is I feel it's dangerous

and it's also I mean to be able to trust someone for me

and then feel that you know know that they've been with someone else I understand that is completely fine

for other people who feel that that's right for them well wait a second wait a second are you

or did he cheat on you oh no I'm not Polly um so he has

on and off with me okay so he has sex with other women at first

right and I mean they're not I've seen type women adult women men have hit on me before

or even at our workplace called me in the middle of the night you know sometimes

people act inappropriately and you just try to you know be as appropriate as you can be but um

you know friends of his have tried things and I've told them no but you know it's sometimes it's my word

against theirs and people say oh they've never done anything like this before and you're like

wow I'm sorry to tell you but then he says that he's forgiven me

for things like that but he once told me also that you know he's had girlfriends who cheated on him walked in on girls who cheated on him

so you know I think that might also play a role uh-huh

and and then taken a break from me at times you know but he does like to have different partners

but he doesn't want to call it um Polly he's not Polly Polly you're honest and open about it

no it's kind of okay that's what I thought Polly was yeah so

Polly it's consenting among everybody and in this sounds like a bit of a

I mean you're accepting it you know about it it's not like he's doing it

totally behind your back but you don't like it and he's doing it

no and it's first that my question is my question is why doesn't

Gail Stairs the fabulous Gail Stairs

get with a guy who only wants to be with her and will

give you the time and adoration that you deserve and maybe isn't as

successful maybe he might be but you know that might I don't know

whether that would be the thing you'd have to give an inch to gain a mile of love

and happiness I don't know but likely that is likely

okay I think honestly because it didn't start off like that

it started off and he wanted me to be committed with him and that anytime I wanted to be with him

or if I ever felt sad or anything was going crazy that I could always call him yeah

you know but then as he became more freaked out over time

you know whether it was because of the things that I mentioned well actually because of the things that I mentioned you know and the

maybe calling him too much when I fall asleep you know and I think it just

tapered you know it it got like more restrictive but he definitely wanted that

I mean he's asked me to marry him a few times you know said he wanted to have children with me he asked you to marry him

yeah I mean you know he said he wanted to marry me but you know he didn't give me a ring

or a propose or anything you know it was more like I want to marry you you know like

okay eventually well say okay

I want to marry you too so I mean I've dated other successful guys too I've kind of had this issue with

all you know any guy that I've been with actually maybe because they're all successful no I've dated guys who weren't

as successful oh and they're at home too I was actually you guys didn't have a job for a while

okay alright well anyway so it sounds like you want to be with him

and and yet you you say you want me to heal you and I don't know how

you want to be healed what is wrong with you if you're happy with him and you don't want to leave him

well it's not that I wouldn't if I found someone better or someone who even wanted to have

I mean or do you want me to do like voodoo on him so that he wants you and wants to be with you

as much as you want to be with him and she could stab the doll I've been trying to do voodoo with my Trump doll for years and it hasn't worked

I'm good with right right advice but I'm not so good with voodoo you know and this guy

he sounds like a cool guy and at some point he will settle down when he reaches a certain point and I hate to say it

but it's a crapshoot as to whether it'll be with you yeah absolutely

I mean as with anyone and I mean I've been in other relationships before where I've had this issue as well

there's only one relationship I've been in okay but before you tell me about that just tell me so that we can get somewhere

this is a show sorry I said right right yeah and here's the question

and I should have ended with the question so here's the question what do you need to be healed about what in you needs to be healed

why do you need to be healed I mean when you reached out to me on Facebook you did sound like you needed healing

but right now and maybe it's because you're on webcam and you're looking beautiful and maybe you feel like you don't need to be healed

maybe you're fine no it's you okay oh no no no

okay so what is it thank you it's orgasms during sex with a partner I thought I told you sorry

oh no no you didn't tell me that at all okay orgasms during sex with a partner that partner being mr. right here

the one the comedian or whoever whoever whoever is the right person

I'm definitely with mr. right okay so let's let's this is this is a mechanical thing so we can work with this

okay so you aren't coming with your lovers and is this true of more than just the one you're with

yes yes it is I'm the only one have you ever come with any of your lovers yes I have

but I could count on one hand how many and only good one of those partners

oh did you say good I said good because then we can talk about them quickly so one on one hand so who's the one who gave you the best orgasms

uh one that also raped me and broke my nose there's your problem right there that's terrible there it is

there it is no that's a big problem I mean I'm not going to say that's your only problem but if the one let's just go over that

because it's tragic yeah and yet it's not uncommon and there's nothing wrong with you don't talk about it

for feeling this way but I can imagine that it makes it difficult for you to have an orgasm with a nice guy

yes it does and I've I mean um so I've been raped more times than I even know about actually and I mean it's weird to say that with such

you know I've been in therapy for a long time you know and recently I started going again but it I mean it doesn't have as much charge for me as it used to to say it like you know just out loud

um I mean I've also been kidnapped I was kidnapped by a coworker and he tortured me broke all my fingers

none of these guys are in jail is any of this related to the sleeping pills and the drinking like you say more time of course

yeah okay okay just check out so when when is the last time you had something evil like this happened to you uh my

I was engaged to a man a couple years ago in 2016 and uh

no actually I shouldn't say that um I guess last year there was a coworker of mine that this is the one that broke your fingers no actually that was in 2016

since then I had a landlord a landlord's husband actually oh wow he drugged me and almost killed me

and he may or may not have raped me in his basement I don't I'll never know is that because you were drinking a lot

or you were on sleeping medication oh no no he drugged me he drugged me he put you on sleeping medication

of some sort like I don't want to say a plausible cocktail well so what I think it probably was was a drug called belladonna

um but because he was he was from the islands and I know a little bit about chemistry I have an IQ of 206 on the old scale uh the old scale

uh so I know and I also went to school for medicine for a little while wow you're just a very much of a renaissance woman

but in the middle of all this renaissance you are having violent non-consensual sex

that gives you orgasms and then you're having nice consensual sex where you don't have orgasms

oh no I've never had an orgasm that I know of um when I've been raped uh

definitely the times that I was conscious this is such a fucked up thing I'm sorry for anybody that has to hear this but um yeah

during the times that I've been conscious and been raped I've or you know molested or you know abused in any way

I've never had an orgasm okay um yeah so what if you when you said when I asked you

who's the last guy that gave you an orgasm you said this guy that raped you and do you mean that you had an orgasm with him

at another time yes okay and actually I was in a relationship with him

I mean I it's tricky sometimes even my own definition of what that term

has shifted over the years so has Eugene Carroll's the one who was raped by Trump you know it's hard to talk about this stuff

but it's I think important to talk about it and to deal with it somehow I mean maybe not everyone

can do it on a show but you are a show woman so here you are but it is something that you know a lot of people

most of whom are women but some men go through and you know I wrote about this years ago

when when actually Bush invaded Iraq here I'm going to get into politics for a minute and say people were saying

that the Iraqis were smiling and I said well you know some people have orgasms when they're raped

and these people are smiling and they're being invaded and they're in shock

and the shock to their system connects to their sexual synapses or in this case to their smile

that you know you want to appease the person you know you seem like you're a woman who has a lot of control

over many things you do you do acrobatics you have control over your body you do when you're a comedian you have control over the audience

when you're you know doing a lot of these when you're singing you have to control your voice there's a lot of control

involved in what you do and you know you want to lose control sex is not all

sometimes sex for people that aren't in control a lot or that somehow aren't satisfied with the control they have

even if they're president of the United States they still want more control but an awful lot of people

who have a certain amount of control want to give up control and how to do that I mean wanting that

is not a bad thing wanting that is normal and natural it's called surrender and in surrender

in war it's a terrible thing I guess surrender in love can be a beautiful thing

surrender in sex is a mixed bag sometimes you're surrendering to an asshole but sometimes it saves your life sometimes the guy's going to kill you

and it's a very I've definitely been in situations like that before as well I've been private security in many times

I was actually up to be the the head security guard of the United Nations in New York City at one point and I've been asked to join the CIA

at times I was asked to be an officer in the Navy at one point and I've been an undercover

muckraker reporter in many situations I've done things like this but yes you have to sometimes give in to your attacker

and in a way what I told you about the guy that I was with the last orgasm I had with someone during sex

I mean I've seen him since then you know and like I told you sometimes like the definition

of what I understand to be rape even he didn't feel that way at the time like neither of us knew that but

regardless he's broken my nose breaking your nose is an attack how could that be

there's no way around that ripping your panties okay but breaking your nose no what does he say is the reason he broke your nose

he said that I uh that I

undermined him I guess and that made him feel small oh well that's a rape thing to say

yeah I know that terrible justification to me I mean the only way I would excuse it is if you were doing in a contorted position

just having great sex and then you fell and broke your nose on the floor I agree

but okay or even up against the wall and as you turn okay oh my nose you know certainly accidents

that's no accident him feeling small at the time we had yeah I was filming the show

I was actually contracted by another company through NBC at that point and he was on the show with me and we were doing the show with myself

and him and my best friend and I was staying at his apartment a lot but I had my own apartment but his roommates were a little jealous

that we had this contract that was kind of a big contract and they also didn't have girlfriends of their own and they didn't like that we were so happy

and they at one point they told him that I was no longer allowed to use the bathroom at their house

because apparently I spent all this time in the bathroom it wasn't true basically there are certain things

that certain people turn to when there's obviously no one can see what you do in the bathroom so it's a perfect target

oh this person does gross things in the bathroom you can't defend yourself because you're not going to go to the bathroom in front of someone unless that's your thing

but I didn't spend time in the bathroom that was irregular

I feel it's just silly things I don't know where we're going with the bathroom

anyway I just said I can't come over here anymore if I can't use the restroom in the house of course you have to use the restroom

they upset about something you were doing in the bathroom no they just said they timed it

somebody wanted to go to the bathroom they only have one bathroom no it wasn't even about the bathroom

they were just jealous and they wanted to find a way to mess up our situation that was all this is the guy that broke your nose

correct this is the guy what that broke your nose yes I'm telling you about the situation

I am glad they messed up your relationship you should not be with a guy who breaks your nose because he feels small or because of anything

I wasn't with him for many years after that in fact we didn't even talk to each other right

but now you're talking to him again yes I've talked to him in the past so let me ask you a question my darling you asked me to heal you

so I mean I'm not one to judge people do you want to be with a guy who breaks your nose

do you want to be with a guy who has sex with other women do you want to be with a guy who doesn't have time for you

or do you want to open yourself up perhaps to other types of guys where you can

play act some of your fantasies and talk about them in ways that turn you on

and so you can have an orgasm with a nice guy yes I do well then you can do that sister

Gail you can because you're creative and you can find a nice guy

I think who has a lot of time for you you need a lot of time and you're running out of time

like all of us are we're all running out of time we don't have time to mess with people that don't think we're the greatest

thing absolutely absolutely you don't need to convince someone

of how great you are but obviously you're turned on by

the rapey thing and I say that well yes you just told me the guy that raped you

is the one that could give you orgasms and now you're seeing him again I don't think it's because of that I think it's because

we were able to spend so much time together where he but you also understood

when I said hang on I'm taking over the conversation you also if you recall

and I don't mean to be like Judge Judy I'm Dr. Suzy when I said a lot of people who have a lot of control

like you do over their acrobatics and comedy etc might have this desire to be controlled

might have this desire to surrender and it's easiest to do it without thinking

to someone who's kind of an asshole and who takes advantage of you in different ways that's easier

because you don't have to plan your life you don't have to think about what am I doing you just feel this sexy guy

who of course has to have certain qualities other qualities intelligence good looking all those things but he pushes your buttons because

he doesn't care because he's going to take control of you he's not going to respect your boundaries and that's a turn on

when you start what you said to begin with that makes sense in fact I tried to find out

but I've explored those fantasies before and it doesn't turn me on sure it turns me on a little bit

well let's just say this I think you've decided it shouldn't turn you on but you still aren't at a place

where you can get turned on enough with nice boyfriend who you're with now who is a bit of an asshole because he doesn't spend enough time with you

and he has sex with other women but he doesn't punch you in the nose and break your nose and he doesn't rape you

and I would say that's a step up yeah for sure a step up so what you need is to

kind of figure out when he's with you maybe you don't even have to talk to him about it maybe you can just think about your own fantasies

in such a way or get yourself ready before he comes over with a little of your contortionist masturbation in fact that's one of the reasons

why I've even started talking to this other guy again you know even as a friend is I can't really figure out why

because he doesn't take control like that in fact the times that he has raped me many years ago

who are we talking about now I'm confused the guy you're with now or the other guy

or you're with a few guys okay well you know you sound like you are a little Polly yourself

and maybe that's good and I know there's a romantic within you that wants just one guy but

you know you're with these a few different guys you got the guy that is a comedian that's real successful that doesn't spend enough time with you

and then there's the guy who raped you and broke your nose that you didn't talk to for a while but now he's back in your life and I

actually at this time he's not back in my life I'm not with one more how can I heal you

how can I heal you you keep arguing with me she's trying to get this straight I mean it's okay

I don't have to heal you I kinda want to because you asked me to but then you fight me you want me to just

dominate you slap you around break your nose and I want to be

I hope it's a process I want you to have the truth there's the only reason why I'm trying to talk to you the truth takes a long time

and you know if the truth is none of us are ever gonna get healed we're all gonna die

to some extent except you know kind of suspending disbelief in the reality of life

is required to be healed to feel that I am I am marvelous

I am perfect and everything is perfect you know a lot of people say that stuff it's full of shit

but if you can really believe it or at least partially believe it you heal yourself yeah I agree with that

alright so the part of you that wants a good relationship is perfect

but the part of you that wants to be raped is also perfect but that part of you doesn't really want to be raped I know I know I know

in fact I'm gonna talk to NPR this coming Wednesday about this and Eugene Carroll talked

about this and freaked out what's his name the guy with the white hair anyway

that guy what? that guy Andy Andrew Cooper

so she freaked him out because she said Trump you know he attacked me

he stuck his penis inside of me and Anderson Cooper said so he raped you and she said well yeah

it's the classic definition of rape and he said so why don't you say he raped you because I don't want to turn people on

and there are a lot of people turned on by rape now I agree I thought it was weird Anderson Cooper looked like he was gonna throw up

obviously it's not his fantasy no not obviously maybe it is his fantasy it's a very dangerous thing

to say and I have to I mean if someone just tunes into this show right now they might think I'm advocating

rape or something which hello I'm not I'm not at all none of us are none of us are but a lot of people

have rape fantasies both men and women I know this because I'm a sex therapist and I talk to people about

their secret fantasies when no one else can hear and most people don't fantasize about raping most people fantasize

about being raped both male and female and and in between they want something done to them

but of course they never want to be raped by someone unattractive that's awful it's always got to be someone attractive

and then it's okay in fact I'm not sure when someone attractive raped me kind of whether I should call it a rape or not

what happened to me and anyway someday I'll talk about that I've talked about it but it's hard to know sometimes now that does not give

any guy an excuse or girl whose girls can rape too absolutely absolutely

don't rape anybody consent in fact what is getting to be a little bit popular is this idea of consensual

non-consent which is basically what BDSM is all about we agree that I'm going to tie you up

or spank you or I'm not going to break your nose though the nose breaking doesn't go under any category but some of these things

could go under categories or acting like a rape situation and so people find that

very very exciting and there's nothing wrong with finding that exciting as long as you don't really do it

and you have consensual non-consent agreed upon and you know what I used to think it was totally silly

but at this point with the culture the way it is I would say a signed contract is not a bad idea

because people can get I would say it's not a bad idea at first I used to think oh that ruins it well you know what

there's so many people who have second thoughts sticker shock and they think they want this thing

and then they do this thing and then it's awful to them and I think that's going on in a way more than ever

and in another way a lot of things are coming out that are really terrible that involve our president

and involve other people that are powerful and it's shocking and disturbing

and it gives us post-trump sex disorder but for some people it turns them on some people go oh my god this guy just makes me nauseous

I can't even have sex with my own lover or they might say I gotta watch the latest thing what happened with Epstein

what happened, what did that girl say and meanwhile the husband's going ah when are you coming to bed honey anyway

that's one and then the other is they get turned on by it some people get turned on by the racism

the racist rapist is what I'm taking to calling the president's now I mean it's awful

but some people do get turned on by and you know what what I have to say is I'm not the thought police whatever you get turned on

by in your head and if you want to share it with someone and even verbally sharing you need consent

you can't just say hey I would like to rape you I have a fantasy about that what do you think I mean I heard you talking about it

you know how about it and no do not do that and certainly do not do that with my guest

or I will block you and I will report you and Facebook is now my friend yeah and good they should be

well they should but I'm sure they'll get after me for something else and I'm sure some people think my pictures that I post are

invasive of their whatever their prudery people speak out to me all the time I love you

you're a great energy a great force in life and well I mean it

that's why I'm spending my whole show with you for God's sake spending the whole show with sister gail

in the church of the bonobo way in the new village of Bonoboville I actually had some guests that didn't come

I'm not going to name them but you know we they kind of where they had their part flaky flaky they're cool they're not flaky

they're not flaky no no no no no no no no but in any case

yeah you're fascinating and you should be with someone that finds you so fascinating that they lose their job

maybe not that they can't take their eyes off of you they can't be away from you for a minute the fear of that

the fear of that and so you know your awareness of that can help you to not be anxious to know you know I'm a lot to handle

and I shouldn't be anxious and text someone a lot I know I have to tell myself that sometimes because I think

the world centers around me so I'm sure you think the world centers around you and you have to stop yourself sometimes

the world revolves around the sun they need a little bit of time to themselves and they need to want me I'm not saying

absence makes the heart grow fonder because mostly absence makes the heart go wonder but you have to let it

go you can't you can't enforce you know you've got to say with me you have to be with me that starts to feel like

a prison you know what it's times I feel really connected well I mean I do

I don't know if this is the way everyone is set up and I totally am cool with whatever but to be perfectly honest when I have sex with

someone I feel very connected to them and then it's almost like I understand and I think it's a great idea the idea of having

a honeymoon where you see each other a lot you know but I've noticed too that during the times that I want to have sex

like when I was in a committed relationship when I feel turned on and I want to have sex and someone agrees

to have sex with me or the person that I'm with agrees to have sex with me that's when I can have orgasms like really easily but I've never been in a relationship

except for one and it was with that guy that I would say can we have sex right now and sometimes

he would say yes okay and all of the relationships yeah they've all it's gotta be sex on their time

only okay so the guy that you're with not the nose breaker we're gonna I know the nose breaker correct is great in a lot of ways

but the breaking of the nose is a deal break the nose breaking is a deal breaker am I wrong do I no that's right that's a deal breaker

that's too far the only reason I've ever wanted to even speak to him again is just to kind of like find out it's like he's the only one that I've been able

to do that with but it has to be just because I just tried to figure it out you know you have good sex with the guy yes

okay yeah that's who she's trying to figure out well she's trying to figure out how to have good sex with someone who doesn't break her nose well that would be great

but you know we had great sex before he did that too good guys and I'm a dozen you know sometimes like the bonobos

are very good at makeup sex you know they fight and they make up and it's very hot sex and I think a lot of

you know sex therapist say makeup sex is a bad thing but I think it's a good thing and sometimes that's what works

I think I don't know I'm trying to heal you here I keep trying to get you away from the nose breaker because I feel like that is

not a healing thing yeah okay okay so let's leave him let's not

you know I mean if you want to see him I mean you can obviously I think she said she just passed him in the street alright

so now the one that you're with the one you kind of like you kind of really like very much but he doesn't spend the whole lot of time

with you because he's busy and you know okay when it comes over when it comes over do you have a sex date

how do you have sex how does the sex begin like usually we'll go out first and then we'll go

to his house and have sex okay yeah his house not yours not mine

okay well I think it's easier when it's your house because you're comfortable comfortable

you want to be comfortable although you know sometimes you could use a period of time like if he's taking

a shower or you're taking a bath that's the time for you to masturbate and get yourself ready and then

you know because guys in general you know take less time and it's

pretty normal and natural for women not to come with guys just because they take

less time so that's my number one suggestions like committed ones where I've tried things like that and it's almost like

as soon as it just I've it's never worked for me oh god my healing I've gotten so turned on

to a point where it's like if anyone I thought would have touched me I would have had an orgasm but then nothing

hmm so you get yourself worked up then the guy comes in and you're you're lost you don't even well how

about if you just don't worry about that just trust your body that I think you you you just kind of

got defeated sometimes when the guy walks in yes you have emotional low you're scared you're nervous you're thinking it's not it never worked

before why is it going to work now and yeah it's kind of difficult so instead of giving up ahead I try

but sometimes I get numb down there yeah sometimes I feel yeah I feel

very nervous use a vibrator yes I've used vibrators I stopped recently because

I started being able to use my own hands again which is really awesome for the first time in like years and years and years all I can use

about with the guy how about with the guy I've done that before as well how about with this guy

no not with this guy are you unwilling to try it with this guy using a vibrator

I've got to admit I've tried it with other guys though and I feel it feels so dirty to me I don't know why

it feels dirty you must be healed sister gail it is not dirty to use a vibrator it is not

dirty to use any kind of sex toy it is not dirty what's dirty and I don't know why I feel like that

I know why you feel like that I feel so uh how do I even explain this like I cry

a lot after we have sex I feel so emotional yeah and so guilty wow

what religion were you raised with Catholic okay there was a lot of really really stuff stuff around

sex yeah that's some stuff from which you need to be healed sister gail

because you're a little bit in the nunnery you're in the nunnery monastery yeah you

that's that you had some religious sexual abuse of your sexuality I'm not sure

what degree it might have been physical but your sexuality uh was harmed by

by the church and you know you're not alone there there's been so many people but yet it's very difficult

because it happens at an early age and it's it's part of the desire for

surrender you know sometimes to the wrong people like the nose breaker because

Jesus surrendered and he's the best and you want to be like Jesus and Mary and you don't want to have your own agency

you don't want to be someone a bad woman like Lilith who had sex with demons because she was on top of Adam

because on top meant that she could have an orgasm because it's easier for most women to have an orgasm

when they're on top than most of the other positions that's another thing I suggest but in any case religion it goes beyond positions

although it does make the position of woman on top into something evil that Lilith wanted to have sex with Adam on top

and Adam said you know God said no no no or Adam said no no no and then they got rid of Lilith and she went down to the ocean

and had sex with devils and she became the quintessential evil woman but then of course Eve had sex the way Adam wanted it

but not until she ate of the fruit which made her also an evil woman so there's no winning

both women are evil both Eve and Lilith both of Adam's wives are set up

and then you have Mary who's the first great woman and that's because she supposedly doesn't have sex with anybody although of course

she probably is a single mother but in any case she supposedly is you know

so holy so there's a holiness in you my child my daughter and you know that is

holding you back from your earthy sexuality and you know

I mean sometimes you gotta take that religion and turn it upside down like the way we do

bonoboville communion we take catholic communion and we turn it into licking of the body

I'm not saying you need to do this particular thing but sometimes the fantasy not a bad idea to participate in a bonobo

you wanna lick my toes maybe we'll do a little bit of that well we've got only five more minutes and I don't think I've healed you

have I healed you have I healed you a little bit have I given you tools to heal yourself I understand

what you are saying and I am agreeing with you that I think we've identified and um

I guess it's just that maybe the tools if you could give me some tools to heal this I mean I even sometimes I feel very

if I could give you some tools I've been giving you tools for an hour and a half but you know I think you don't want those tools

you don't want my tools I guess so now you're asking for tools okay one tool is a vibrator one tool is

breathing deep one tool is masturbating before he comes in I don't know even if what you want tools about you want tools to come with the guy

so I'm out of time so you can't ask me a question like give me tools is there one more thing you'd like to say or ask

because I gotta go I just want to know what I should do to fix this that's all oh yeah that's all

listen to me listen to this show one more time I don't think you were listening the whole time you were on I think you were busy performing oh my god no

well you're arguing with me again so I feel like I need to slap you and I wouldn't I'm not a slapper but that's what

you're asking for you're being so fucking difficult and I've given you an hour and a half

and this is you and I love you I care about you and I respect you and I think you're great but you know

we've been talking back and forth and back and forth and I guess this is where we're at

could you maybe just give me a bottom line that would take another hour and a half and still you wouldn't be satisfied you're not so I could see why the guy

wants to spend some time away you're wearing me out it's only because I can't hear you all the time

that's why I'm not trying to argue okay okay thank you for that and maybe that's also a reason to listen

to this again and our technology is not super duper but you know I mean I've given you a lot

of psychological tools to deal with your trauma I've given you a lot of fantasy tools to deal with

your politically incorrect desires and I've given you some physical tools to help you just relax and have an orgasm

by the way real quick do you squeeze and release your PC muscle your kegel muscle yes I do

so there you go so you do all the physical things so now maybe you should listen more to the psychological

part how do we give up the guilt well giving up the guilt you've got to do that like I said

to create your own bonoboville communion in catholic it's you know get on holy

like the holiness is in your way and also your mother wanting you to do a great job on stage

pressure is the enemy of pleasure when you pressure yourself you don't allow yourself to receive the pleasure

and and yet and yet there's a little bit of pressure involved in pleasure you know you got to squeeze and release

and all that but you got to release and you're not releasing you're not releasing which is why the rapey guy was fun for you

because he forced you to release but you shouldn't be with a guy like that nobody should be with a guy like that guys like that need serious therapy

and probably to be in jail if you are although I don't think anybody I don't like to say anybody should be in jail but you certainly need

some serious anger management training and you know you need to to not be hitting people

so breaking people's noses bad stuff so yeah okay thank you for joining us

sister jail get that holiness out of the way you know create your own

bonoboville communion your own sexual communion with yourself and with your partners and get the rapey guys out of the way

and accept that you like some degree of of uh I don't know how to put it

not rapey but overthrow of hierarchy and overthrow of hierarchy so anyway

no okay okay and accept that I'm going to be wrong most of the time with you yes I am wrong a lot

with Gail and I accept that um I got max actually to get on the other side of the room for a lot of time and then you move

back here and I see why you did because you can sit in the couch there okay but I like it better over there but you were over

there for a little while so um I did get my way for a little while I'm always trying to get my way and it would be

my way if you said thank you Dr. Suzy that was great advice but you didn't and so thank you Dr. Suzy that was great advice

well thank you but I didn't give you any advice I was here for it too though yeah but it's one thing to have great advice

for somebody else but I would like to help her but I'm not obviously so I'm I'm doing fine

she's a wonderful sexual yeah but she was wonderful before I talked to her fuck the catholics

fuck all that shit get down and dirty why don't you try a jesus jack hammer dildo jesus jack hammer dildo

I gotta hold the end of the dildo because Facebook might not like it but um a jesus jack hammer dildo

is the um answer for some people I mean one of the answers Danielle loves the jesus jack hammer dildo

and uh it's a tool they don't pay us made by divine interventions it's just being comfortable

is she bringing up a new subject you can't bring up a new subject we're out of time we're out of time

this is a show okay so hey uh I'm done with the show um I'm not quite sure what to make

of this show I meant to really get after trump for all of the you know send her back shit and being a racist

rapist but anyway I'll just say make oh and I also meant to give you your funniest comedian award but we'll do that next week

thank you sunshine thank you max thank you bonoboville crew uh thank you everyone including my guest

you took up my whole show uh sister gale stairs okay and uh make like bonobos not

baboons bonobos are the make love not war chimpanzees who swing through the trees as well as with each other and make love

to someone you love tonight even if that someone is you I love you

I love you too gale I love you dr. susie sorry I can't hear you guys but I heard that

wow thank you thank you for having me welcome to the host show

horses of the dr. susie block show tonight we've been

hot bothered uh but not in the way you might think but in any case I gotta get the bother

out of me and I feel that a good tool for that

it's a tool is bonoboville communion by the way this is sunshine dacoine my lovely sister

and she's going to join me in bonoboville communion uh it is a variation

on catholic communion yes we have jesus here the jesus jack hammer dildo rising

from the vault apartment and going back in and uh he's here to kind of

bless us as we baptize each other so um would you like to be the altar girl

first and then I will be your altar okay okay I will hold your microphone so sunshine has graciously

agreed to be my altar girl and uh even though she was not raised

catholic like uh the caller tonight she was raised southern baptist yeah but my camera has super rude

did you ever do communion no I think that's catholic now there's some uh some Christian

okay that's just where they say this is the bread of Christ and this is the blood of Christ right and they don't like titties that tittie-licking is us

no I figured that okay so yeah I did do communion okay alright well this is a different kind

of communion this is a twist on communion and instead of eating just a wafer

we lick the beautiful boob of the altar girl and we'll start with

sunshine's beautiful boobs and here she is she is uh applause

what is it what is it oh you can put the microphone by the boob there's a boob talk

what is a boob baptist great sunshine okay so you can hold the other mic while I prepare

the altar okay so this is a preparation of the altar it's already getting hard

I can see and I know she has sensitive nipples so I can't be too hard woo

that tickles well you know tickling it's not like super tickling no it's just like

it's like okay and oh that's that's a communion too she's like look I've got 12 nipples

that's that meat and she's got nipples yeah she's got eight nipples so here's some salt

I'm not going to suck on Betsy's nipples I'm just telling that right there okay that was a poor joke I'm sorry no no it was actually a funny joke

I'm just not going to alright now we will take the body

of the goddess aka the body of Christ the Christ is in here it's sunshine

oh that's nice see I feel better already I think there's still spots oh man

maybe age just trying to curve out right now okay of course he is that's a good photographer

that's a good photographer curves out and a photographer cares about what he's shooting okay one more left alright

now you are going to waterboarding so let's see

I am going to lean back in your lap this is the part where you get to be controlling oh wow okay so

oh oh man I have my foot right on your finger sorry alright

so I am that oh this is nice

okay so I am under the alter yes I

have been waterboarded bonobo style by lovely alter girl

sunshine I just buffing my boobs not sure and he's wriggling

do that again oops on the head right oh yeah one more time

one more time one thing I will take off my hat for oops on the head are healing

that's a tool oops on the head it will make you feel better about everything everything

okay so now I have my turn now it's your turn to partake

you know age before beauty so I didn't mind I can't think of a funny line to that

there we go so yeah nipple

I want to eat that salt girl oh wow I put a lot of salt on there yeah it's nice and salty okay and now

oh god yeah can I do this oh yeah yeah go for it

waterboarding bonobo style beautiful it's here for sunshine

we're bringing a ray of sunshine into the cost show and yeah that is kind of like

one of my tools is to do erotic rituals to get yourself

in the mood now I'm going to attempt to have sex with my husband who was filming on the wrong side of this thing

he filmed on the right side for no one anyway it's all good you know you have to make it good and

and yeah sometimes you gotta hurt a lot before alright

that's our post show thank you Jesus thank you for coming to the after show

after the show after the show Jesus sit me down after the after party it's the hotel lobby

so yeah thanks for coming amen it ain't women hallelujah

oh and uh yeah oh I got laid on the doctor

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