Sexual Intuition & the Motorbunny

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You're listening to Radio Susie One on the worldwide web and now here she is, Dr. Susan Block. Brothers and sisters, lovers and sinners, sex experts and sex pots, authors and activists, porn stars and Presidances. Okay, get your own toilet paper back into your mouth. He's under gag order whenever he's on this show. The Trumpis. Yes indeed, brothers and sisters, there is a lot of bad news

thanks to the Trumpis and many other factors, but he kind of puts it all out there, the big dick with a little penis. And yet, lest we be totally disheartened, let me just say that there's a little bit of good news too. Yeah, there is. And sometimes, you know, it's interesting how the bad news can galvanize people to create change. And, you know, many times when

the news is just kind of medium bad, like Obama putting kids in cages, which did happen. Yeah, now we have the blatant racist, Nazi, sexist, narcissist, big dickhead with a little penis. And we can't ignore it. And that galvanizes us, some of us, to make necessary change, positive change that I think we have to make. And so, you know, there are many great women of the world.

There's men too. I love you guys, okay. But there's some great women. I want to talk about a couple of them just for a minute. And then I'm going to talk to some great women. But women of the world are rising up and fighting the power in a very what I call bonobo way. And one of them is Alexandria Ocasio Cortez, which is a mouthful. And she is hot in more ways than one. She just won the

Democratic primary for Congress in the Bronx Queens, which was sewn up for the incumbent until she stepped in and just powered to the people. She is a young, brilliant, beautiful, female empowered working class. She actually was recently working as a waitress. And she is Latin, of course, part Puerto Rican. And she is hopefully going to Washington in November,

I think, I mean, because they all vote Democratic there. But you never know with these repugnican piranhas. And the Democrats just always laying over and taking it so submissive in a time when we need galvanizing leaders. And she is one. So I hope she goes to Washington. And I'm also inspired by many creative courageous protests. And one of them happened right on

the 4th of July. And my latest shero is Therese Patricia Okumu. These women are great, but the problem with them is their names are just I can't remember them. I have to read them. Anyway, she climbed up to the foot of the Statue of Liberty on the 4th of July to protest ICE and Trump. Trump care. Trump not care. You know, Melania not care. She wore it on her

shirt. And she is actually an immigrant herself from of all places, the Democratic Republic of Congo, which is where the Bonobos are from. That's right. Their only native habitat is in the Congolese rainforest in the Democratic Republic of Congo. And that's where she's from. And by the way, thanks to just centuries of European interference in the Congo, it's

a mess. And I'm not going to go into that. But she came here for very legitimate reasons to seek a better life. And she became an activist. And she's been an activist in many regards, but the kids in the cages, you know, that gets to people. Right? There's a lot of terrible things going on, but that kind of galvanized her. And she was also very

inspired by Michelle Obama, who said, when they go low, we go high. And she said, so I went as high as I could. And she climbed up to the foot, literally to the foot of the Statue of Liberty. And she hung out under the foot. And she's very sexy there in her pink sneakers. I mean, you know, they're kind of hot. And she just sat there until

the cops got her to come down. I mean, I guess she came down peacefully. But she did hang out there for a few hours. And, oh, God and goddess forbid she put some tourists, you know, to an inconvenience. Inconvenience. I mean, I think that she actually gave them a fourth of July story that they'll never forget. So she

inspired me. These are two women that inspired me. So I say, go bonobos. And can I get a hand? Can I get an amen? Amen. Can I get an amen? Amen. I want to welcome you all to the little church of Bonoboville where we are gathered together here in the womb room. And I do have some other very inspiring women, interesting, intriguing,

and illuminating that are going to join me tonight. First of all, my ass producer, associate producer, of course, that stands for the great Phoenix Dawn. You can talk on your microphone, Phoenix, unless you want to be punished. Oh, and now her microphone. Is your microphone on? Turn on her microphone. Hello. Turn it on, baby.

It's still not working. Hello. Hello. We are off to an exciting start. So is that exciting or what that your Puerto Rican cousin there is going to be in Congress, perhaps? Well, all my Puerto Rican cousins are fucked right now. I know. Well, maybe she'll help. Maybe she'll help. Rebuild everything. So thank you.

And that's why we have Trump in a Puerto Rican t-shirt so that, you know, we never forget. Of course you don't. But he has already. So I'm going to move him aside and introduce the young lady next to you all the way from Australia. Yeah. Technically from Topanga Canyon, but I'll take it. Originally from

Australia, but it's been a while. And it is how to get laid using your intuition author, Susanna Brisk. It's such a pleasure to meet you and to be here. And she is a sexual intuitive. Yes, I am. That's correct. Yes, indeed. Well, welcome. We're going to talk to you about how to get laid using

your intuition. I can't wait. But where is that? The liver or the We'll find out. But first I want to introduce over here to my left is the lovely Elle Bonneville. Hi. Hi. Elle is a erotic model, porn star. How would you like to describe yourself? I would just say porn star. I know your Twitter

says you're, well, XXX model. Oh yeah, I'm like, I could be called anything. I know one thing. You're very flexible. Yeah. Which I want to see some more of. But before I do that, I would like to have Miss Brisk, Susanna. Yes, darling. Up here. Of course. To my broadcast bed. It's such a joy to be in your last book,

Dr. Susan, right here. How to get laid using your intuition. And you read it. I did read it. I really enjoyed it. I had notes on it. Thank you. Notes. Yeah. I should have given you the rough draft. Well, I know I like to make my own notes. Lovely. Can't wait to hear. I loved your book too. I'm a little cerebral in that way.

Although I must admit with your different types, I could identify with all of them. Oh, good. The cerebral part of me, you know, was making notes. The emotional part of me just likes to have a good time. And the genital part of me is horny. Yes. Yeah. Perpetually. Enough. Enough. This is a good thing. Yeah.

Should we explain to people what this is? Well, yeah. First we should explain what do you mean by intuition? Okay. So intuition can be defined as what you know that you don't know. So you may be able to observe many things observably, right? Scientifically observe.

But what you decide based beyond what you know is intuition. Okay. Yeah. I mean, is it what a lot of people would call a hunch or a feeling or almost instinct? Yes. Or trusting your gut. And the U.S. military actually did a huge study, a $2.8 million study on intuition.

This I found out after I already had the idea for the book. And they found that it is actually... Just so you know she didn't steal your idea. Yes. U.S. military don't come after me. I did not steal your idea. But the sixth sense has been found to be a reliable indicator of danger in battle that saves lives.

So I was like, well, if it can save your life in a war and help you avoid a landmine or the enemy around the corner, surely it can help you get laid. Surely. Surely. It can. It has. And it has. And it will in the future. But maybe not always. Well, here's the thing. What is there that's foolproof?

Right. In life. Right. Where are the guarantees? But I do think it is a good idea to get, as they say, in touch with your intuition. Even if it's not always, as we say, right. I mean, I kind of call it getting in touch with your animal nature. Which is why I'm all leoparded out. Yes. Because dressing like a bonobo isn't that exciting as a leopard.

No, it's not sexy. Right. You're pulling that off better than a monkey costume, I think. But it's true. It's your ape. Yes. Right. That's terrible. You know, the thing is, though, when you tune into your inner bonobo. Yes. I think. You're basically tuning into, you could say, your better angels, your peace through pleasure,

your female empowerment, your male sensitivity and well-being. And, yeah. But when you tune into maybe your inner, I don't know, gut, common chimp, or some other animal that might be a little murderous like your black widow spider. I mean, somebody might have an inner animal that isn't exactly friendly.

Oh, right. Like a wolf. I mean, yes. I don't know. I mean, what if your inner animal, what if your inner voice is telling you to do something that isn't right? Well, that's a very good question. Because what you're talking about here are primal urges. And I have a chapter in my book called, There's No Such Thing as a Negative Sexual Urge.

Because the way that I define it, the urge is not the part that's negative. In fact, the more that you suppress the things that you're afraid to think about, the more they become compulsive and the more likely you are to act on them and harm somebody. Now, if you know that you have urges that aren't, let's say, vanilla,

that aren't, let's say, mainstream, shall we say. Oh, yeah. Like that. Then the least you can do is make your brain a complete democracy and allow yourself to explore those things and figure out how you can actually get those needs met in real life.

Right. So rather than pathologizing and going, I'm afraid if I go with my gut, I'm going to turn into some kind of fuck monster, right? Like, let's just recognize that those things are part of who we are

and they give us clues about who we actually are. And I think it's important. Yes, awareness. Yeah, awareness. Because, you know, if you just do whatever your gut tells you to do,

what if your gut tells you to just pick up your AR-15 and run in and kill a bunch of people? Right. I mean, you want to tune into that and then you know, I need to go to a therapist. Right.

You know, you tune into your intuition doesn't necessarily mean you always do what your gut is telling you. Of course, 100%. And the other thing is because we're talking about sex, of course we're talking about consent, perfect timing. Hello.

Is that high? Before we just get into that lovely subject of consent. We have to talk into the microphone. That's a good girl. This is Miss Jenna Rotten.

Hi, I'm a little late. Yes, she's a bit of a bad girl, although she's usually the dom. And she is also a sex educator and a friend of our good friend, Goddess Soma.

And I've met you at Domcon. I'm usually the one that's in control. But now you're late. Now I guess I need a punishment.

So now you're a switch, as of this moment. Maybe. You know, I don't find it hard to switch for powerful women. Oh, good.

I like that. I'm Susanna. It's nice to meet you. Nice to meet you.

Susanna Brisk right here. Thank you. And Elle. Elle has an interesting last name.

Veneva. Veneva. Sounds very French. Are you the one that wrote the book?

No. We're the one that wrote the book. Yeah. So you wrote the book about sex and intuition.

Yes. Yeah. And we're just talking about it. And we were just coming to the consent part.

And I know you're an educator, so I was like perfect timing. Because of course the first thing that you want to deal with, if you're telling people to follow their instincts when it comes to sex, is how does that intersect with consent, right?

Because that doesn't mean that you can just come up to someone, go, oh, I totally can tell she's hot for me. I'm going for this right now, right? Well, a lot of people think of it that way.

Right. And that is not correct. And that's not what's in the book at all at all. So what's important to establish that?

Very important. Because here's the thing with intuition, is that if you don't get verbal consent, then your intuition is not validated.

That's how that works. But the way that the system that I teach in the book, which helps people get in touch with like what the instincts really are, it helps you figure out basically how to pay attention to nonverbal cues.

Because that's what's missing, I think. Don't you think, as you spray yourself and erotically drape yourself in my book? Well, I'm displaying your book and cooling off at the same time. I love it.

That's the best display my book ever had. I think it's important to tune into these things, whether you call it intuition, animal, nature, or hunch. We need to tune into it because we're going so far away with our hyper-civilization

that depends on certain kinds of analysis and everything is in bits and bytes. It's self-expression. And self-expression. Yeah, and it takes us away also from this material consumption in the culture

which says that you kind of have to be this dead thing that doesn't really think for yourself. You're a woman. You're a woman. Yeah, like you get to own whoever you are, whoever you identify as, right?

Yeah. I thought the important part about consent is that a lot of people think that they can just assert their masculinity or assert their dominance by railroading over everybody else. And that's why I kind of specialize in being a sensual Dom.

So many people want to try what we're doing, but they have this preconceived notion of a slave and a mistress and all this heavy leather and bondage and they don't want to go to that certain place. And I feel like that it's just kind of, it goes hand in hand with consent

and kind of shredding some of that masculinity by getting more in touch with that and getting the people who don't know what they're doing into doing it. Yeah, and that's the difference between somebody who's a dominant who understands that the submissive is the person who's driving.

So the shades of gray want to be. So we could spend an hour and a half talking about consent, but let's, I just want to run through a few of the little terms. Don't show me your notes.

Right. No, no, you can't see. This is a test of your own book. I'm ready.

I'll try to remember what I wrote. So what are we supposed to hack into? So you're hacking into your internal guidance system. Wow.

That you already, this is like 2,000 drafts later. I know it all looks like it was channeled, but in fact, everything. Like the astrology, following the stars. Yeah, well, it's a little bit like, you know, you all have that, right?

So it's like when we're in kindergarten and you're sitting in kindergarten on the first day and they say to you, sit still. And you go, oh, I get it.

I shouldn't pay attention to the cues going on in my body. Got it. That's what's called civilization. Right, right.

And then Bonobos. No, Bonobos. I mean, you can't say Bonobo, but I like you better. Okay.

Bonobos. So they probably have no kindergarten, I'm guessing. Well, they do. Actually, they have a culture.

They do. And they, they educate each other. How do they have a schooling system? Well, because the older Bonobos bring up the younger Bonobos.

It's fantastic. And I'm just like any great apes. And I'm sure they're not, but I'm sure that they're not supposed to just like sit there quietly.

They probably can express, right? No, they definitely do a lot more expressing and they're, they're, they swing through the trees as well as with each other.

Yeah. Yeah. And you see, I mean, common chimps also kind of run around a lot, but common chimps are very male dominated.

And common chimps, you know, rape is common. And it sounds like a good deal for some males, but it isn't a good deal for any of the males because the males get killed quite frequently.

And the other males are all like stressed out. Yeah. Over whether they're going to get killed or not. And among Bonobos, the males are pretty chill, you know,

because they get laid a lot by hot, willing, consensual females as well as each other. See, Bonobos are bisexual or pansexual and they are panpaniscous.

But anyway, back to humans. And we're very similar to Bonobos. I kind of feel like we have a Bonobo side and a common chimps side.

And what side are we going to lean to? I'm trying to push all of society. No, really. Just, you know, trying to do my thing to help people be

more Bonobo, to tune into that inner animal, to that intuition that tells you how to be sensitive if, I guess, your male energy is leading or if your female energy is leading, how to be more assertive.

Yes. So, let's go on to the next thing. I want to say one thing about, I want to ask you about getting laid, because interestingly, getting laid

is the subject of your book. Yes. Now, what do you mean by getting laid? Well, that's the thing.

Getting laid is not just insert, you know, tab A into slot B. We're not just talking about P and V intercourse here. P and V, you've got to say what that is. Penis in vagina.

Penis in vagina, technically a vulva. So, yeah, yeah. Let's hear it for the vulva. Yeah, but the thing is it's in the vagina.

Yes. In the vagina. That's what a lot of people think of as fucking. Yes, we do, but many don't.

So, what I encourage people to understand is that if you're in touch with your own sexual energy, which I call fuck energy, then you can have fuck energy. Yeah.

I think people can relate to that. We're feeling it in this room, so it doesn't even have to be touch, actually. Right, like would anyone like a squirt of my water pistol?

Yes, exactly. And it feels good. It's connection, right? You want a squirt?

So, do you want me to answer this question? It's like flirting with her. I'm listening, I'm listening. I'm sorry, I'm distracted right now.

Well, so... You want a squirt? No, I'd rather watch you squirt her. So, yes, the difference between people thinking,

oh, I've never been laid, for example, right? Or I'm never going to get laid. Or the experiences that I've had were somehow a failure because I didn't get to this base or that base.

And to really think of it in a different way and to think of the whole thing as a trajectory towards getting the kind of sex that you want with the kind of person that you want it with.

All right. Because isn't that the most satisfying anyway? Everyone's bumbling around trying to have their sexual experiences and they don't understand that when you take a step,

you connect, you build that intimacy, those are the sexual experiences that really get you. Yeah, I agree. But some people's thing is also a more casual encounter

and they feel more comfortable in a casual encounter and, you know, bonobos? Hey, bonobos, interestingly... Can I just give you the bonobo perspective?

Bonobos love to have sex with their friends. But when given a choice between having sex with a friend or a stranger, they usually choose the stranger. Interesting.

That's right. So, you know, hey, it's cool and I'm all for intimacy. I have been married for 26 years. Yay, Captain Max!

I got your intimacy right here, baby. Get it, Max. Oh, yeah. But let me just say it can kill your sex if you let it.

It can. That's the thing, that trust is great, but if you just let trust be trust and trust and trust, trust kills lust.

Now, if you combine some of these things and all these books and all these wonderful teachings of the sex spurts, then you're combining your lust with your trust and then that is the best of both worlds.

Yes, and I coach couples every week and in various stages of sex and no sex and it's dead or it's dying or it's just, you know, like it's a four and we want it to be at least an eight

and what I find a lot is that it's not so much about, you know, the male, the female, like taking the emphasis off these traditional, you're so magnetic, the traditional roles like...

And you're so dynamic. Well, thank you. See, fuck energy. You're getting hot in here.

Fuck energy, this flow. It's the mastery and the mystery. Yes, dynamism and magnetism. Yes, and dominant and submissive.

Do you think the back here is some of the reason why? And if you're aware... I'm sorry, the fear is some of the reason why people like BDSM sex.

Yes, and they don't... And they don't understand the fact that the BDSM can actually even out a lot of the other power dynamics in the relationship.

Did I just say a mouthful or what? You did. You did, but it's great. And to people, it's good for thought.

Like regular couples, like they don't think they're kinky, they don't think that they're, you know, into some wild shit, but you just take them to strip the basis down to the very, very basis of who's in charge

and who's surrendering and you can create an intimacy. I know because I see this every week that it's just, it's extraordinary to witness.

I thought it was weird. You thought it was weird? You need to talk on a microphone or you're gonna get punished.

I always thought I was weird because I always had sexual, like, into windows and I was like, yeah. And I thought, after I came, I was like,

oh my God, that's a bad thing. You know, and I felt guilty about it, but now it's just like, I feel energy and the whole thing about it

is like we're sexual beings, you know, trying to get where we have to be. Did you get brought up in religion? Yeah, I'm a Catholic Hindu.

Oh wow. Yeah. What's the Hindu position on sexuality? Basically, you can't have sex at all, basically.

The Hindu way. Come on. It's true. It's true.

Every religion has an anti-sex angle to it just about, except maybe wicked. But you can stick it in your mouth though.

And every religion also has room for sex. Yes. You know, it's just whether you find it and sometimes, you know,

some of the religions that are the most repressive seem to breed porn stars. Yes. And BDSM as well.

There's a lot of aspects to religion that if you can sublimate them can become very redemptive in my opinion and experience.

Well, there is so much taboo in human sexuality and yet we have these intuitions, these instincts, these desires

that often break taboos and BDSM does give you a place and a safe place

to break taboos with consent. And you can play. Yeah, you play. And basically, even when you just got

a vanilla marriage, you're breaking a taboo if you were brought up in a religion that says sex is bad, sex is bad until you get married.

A lot of people have trouble with that because then they get married and they're like, I don't know what to do. And people go through

what you call torture loops. Torture loops. Chapter 4, torture loops. That keep them from

being happy. Yes, that torture them. Torture loops. You can figure out what that means just by the phrase.

It's a loop that goes on in your mind over and over again even though you know it's full of shit or that it happened in your childhood and it's not happening anymore

but it still hurts you. Is that similar to a self-fulfilling prophecy? It can be a self-fulfilling prophecy, absolutely.

Or a wormhole. A wormhole in the brain, absolutely. And so every week when I work with people

I'm trying to, I call it kick the marble out of the groove. Like just pop it out a little bit because that conditioning, especially if it's

like a religious conditioning that got in early and there's like that shame that got in early I call it like ambient shame and the person seems like

they're walking around, they're functioning great in life but it's like there, you know, it's a layer above everything they're trying to do when it comes to intimacy and connection

but it can be worked on, it can be really helped a lot and healed. It can be, it's not like one of these formulas like the, you know,

P-U-A pickup artist type thing. This is about, I guess, tuning in getting in touch with, you know all those things that are not, you know

a formula, not that simple. But they will get you laid, too. Well they will, and speaking of which can I get you laid?

The way we do it here. Oh, I love that, thank you. I'm now laid. I'm now laid. Yeah, you are, see.

I could have blinked and missed it. So the book is how to get laid using your intuition with laid meaning a lot of different things

not just penis and vagina intercourse although there's nothing wrong with that and bonobos actually spend most of their time having what we might call

outer course or foreplay. They do. Yeah, and oral sex I read in your book. They do. Lots of oral sex. Yes, they do.

They list their parts. They do. They love to go down on each other. They love to kiss. They love to hug. Would it be called heavy petting?

Yeah, they certainly do a lot of heavy, heavy petting. And tickling. They're all about tickling. And something, you know, a little bit of BDSM

in a way. I mean body worship certainly all that kind of body worship. I remember you sharing about the... Wacking that's kind of like a spanking, you know.

The ball touching that they did. And yes, yes. Oh, that's right. You were in my class. Ooh, Jenna Rotten was there.

At Dampon where I presented the bonobo way of femdom

empowerment. They do CBT? The Femdoms of the Wild. Well, they do a... There's a little story I'll try to make it short where

a bonobo female is holding a bonobo male by his testicles. And he can easily destroy her.

Of course, he's bigger than her. He has fangs. He can hurt her. He can rape her. He can kill her. But he doesn't.

And she, on the other hand, I guess she could pull his balls off. But she doesn't. And they kind of do this little dance.

That's so hot. Well, trust game. It's a trust game. An instinct animal trust game. She learned very well.

Oh, I love that. I love that. All to heart, doctors. I'm going to give that to one of my couples this week. That's right.

Sounds like homework. And then they get laid at the end of the trust game. They do that. But they take a while before they do that.

And one of the reasons she feels very secure about playing with his balls is because her girlfriends are nearby. So if he gets out of hand, she goes

and they come running and they jump on him. Wow. He's a good boy. See, if all of us could just have

a bunch of girlfriends in the corner of the room protecting us. Wow. Well, we're going to talk more about how to get laid

using your intuition. But I would like to use my intuition to get this young lady up on my bed. Yes.

Come on. Get up here. Look at you. There's the fun part with the playing. So, you are L.

And you are a porn star. Is that right? And you're from San Francisco, the Bay Area?

Yeah, I'm originally from there. And how long have you been a porn star? I think it's been about a year or so. Right.

Wow. Just so, as soon as you could, you became one. Can I just say, you're not jailbait, but you're a teen dream.

You are 19 years old. So, you're right there. I'm still pretty young. You're still pretty young.

Yeah, and it's funny because I didn't always want to become a porn star until like, it was like last year in January. I decided

I wanted to join porn, and so I moved to LA a few months later and I did it. Wow. And why did you want to become a porn star?

Well, I wanted to move and experience new things and have the financial stability.

Right. But people used to join the Peace Corps for that kind of thing. I mean, you know, this is a lot of sex involved here.

What did you want to teach us? What part of you did you want to share with us? Right now. There's more to it than just that, right? Did you always like sex?

Yeah, I was always like, a very sexual person. You were a dirty little kid, huh? But when I was younger, like...

Is that the voice of dirty Jesus? Yeah. That's Captain Max. I'm just enjoying the conversation.

Dirty Jesus. Yeah, I started masturbating when I was like really young. Like maybe when I was like

seven or so, but I was only like touching my nipples and I was like, why does this feel so good? Yeah, a lot of kids do that. Yeah.

I started touching myself when I was two and actually probably earlier, but that's just my first memory. I mean, you don't

necessarily do it to anything. You just do it because it feels good. It's because our bodies feel good and we own them.

We kind of know that and we're exploring it. Our bodies are sexual regardless of whether we're orgasming or fucking.

They're always sexual. So, there you are. But when did you start fucking? Or did you?

Maybe you could be a porn star that hasn't fucked you. Oh, that would be interesting. It's possible. I actually know one like that in a way.

Her name's Goddess Virgin. She hasn't supposedly fucked anybody. So, what about you?

I started fucking like 16 or 17, I don't remember. Was it good or did you have to learn to make it good?

I think I had to learn to make it good with the first guy and then it also depends on the chemistry.

Well, sure. What did you learn about yourself that made it better? I learned that

I don't have to orgasm to feel good because I've actually never orgasmed with someone else besides myself.

Oh, okay. Come see me, girl. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I promise you it results three sessions, baby.

Three sessions. Is that a Yoni massage? No, it's not a hands-on. I don't work hands-on.

But anyway, if that's not a problem for her then that's not a problem. Let me ask you this. You've come when you're by yourself

but not when you're with a partner. Yeah, no, I've never. And do you want to come when you're with a partner? Do you care at this point?

I don't really mind if I don't but I think it would feel pretty good. I'd like to experience that. Well, you probably will very shortly.

Hopefully. I mean, have you masturbated when you're with a partner? A little bit. Have you just hung out together, masturbated

and then had some sex and then going back to masturbating? I didn't have orgasms from being with a partner for a while and then one day I realized that I could masturbate

my own clitoris to my own pace and get myself close and then all of a sudden I was like I'm going to come with somebody inside of me right now.

That would be awesome. It takes a while for me to come. I could rub my clit for like two hours.

Was sex like taboo in your house? So could I. Was your house taboo sex for two hours? Was my house taboo in there?

What religion did you grow up with? Catholic. Oh, how does Max can relate? Yeah, I went to Catholic school

until I came through somewhere in high school and was I got confirmed? That's when I realized

that's not for me. Do you use your intuition when it comes to sex? I'm not actually sure exactly how.

Oh, you need to read the book. I find out about that. I think you're very intuitive because whatever it is that makes you think

that this is your business at 19 years old possibly at 18 years old is, you know, that's an intuitive kind of a hit that you have

where you go, you know, I think this is for me. Are you kinky? I would say so. I'm not like too kinky,

like as kinky as my friends but I would say I'm pretty kinky. Good. I think you're going to get even kinky. She can do a back bend.

That looks pretty kinky. Oh, wait, is that it? There was some other crazy position you got into. That's pretty cute.

Well, how much time do we have? We have ten minutes. So remember we talked about doing Bonoboville Communion?

A communion. Do you want to do that? Do you remember we talked about that? You can't take communion because you can't drink.

But you could be the altar girl. Would you like to do that? Yeah, I'm not sure how to do that. I use all this lingo.

It's good for your career. What we do is good for your career. It's dirty Jesus.

Well, you know it is. I know all the right things to say to these girls. It really is. It's a very famous thing. It promotes you, I guess you could say.

You're a porn star. And right, the communion altar would reveal your beautiful body.

Top half. Would you like to do that? Okay. So maybe would you like a little strip tease music

so you can give it a little pop-pop? Am I going to be like or do you want to just do it like

You might be You might be. You don't have that much to strip, I guess. Just one thing.

Yeah? You don't want? No, I'm down. She's a porn star.

She's trying to make it in there. You got to get the consent clearly. She's making Dr. Susan work for it. Assumptions.

I have a friend of mine who got in trouble for making an assumption about a porn star. I'm not going to go into who. So anyway, yes.

So how about a little music? Would you like a little music? Are you good? This is The Kingster

by Carmina Formosa. From Australia. Right? And this is Elle.

She's so cute. She's so cute. She's cute. Beautiful.

Pinky is an excitation, I gotta have that, yeah. Oh yeah, take the shorts off. Let's get chinky, bend over and it'll miss pinky. See what that does to my winky.

I gotta have that nipple team, so let's pretend I can't get off if we can be clean. I don't even call that a fun sign. Yeah, let's hear it for Elle Bonneva. Yay.

Beautiful. And look at this cute little tattoo you've got here. So cute. The third eye.

You've got a third eye between your titties. I love that. That's very, very cute. It's perfectly placed.

Very nice. I just want to say something, Dr. Suzy. When I was a kid, I dreamed of women like you. Right, you're his type.

They were dreams. Really? If it wasn't so hot tonight, I'd say we're certainly going to have good sex tonight, me and him. But it's so fucking hot.

Maybe we will anyway, because you're so cute. But I'm sure you inspire a lot of people to have great sex. Do you like to do that? Do you think of yourself as an inspiration to people?

An orgasm inspiration. I guess so. I never thought about it. Well, I'm giving you a calling. Thank you.

You know, I mean, hey, you might inspire some people to masturbate, and they should do that if they want to do that, and you might inspire couples to have sex, and you might even inspire a whole orgy.

That'd be awesome. Just have one right now. Make love, not war. Exactly.

So now you are the alter, and let's see. So we talked about Phoenix taking communion from you. Would you like that? Okay, yeah.

Phoenix, would you like that? You like that? You like that? Come on over here.

This segment is called Catholic Girls Gone Bad. That's right. A Jewish girl gone bad over here. Yeah.

Absolutely. Okay, so this is called communion, but the Catholics, of course, do it with the wine and the wafer,

and we do it with the salt and the agua. Or maybe I'll do it with whatever's in here. Okay, look at this.

Titty-titty. Okay, so now she is giving them a little kiss and a little salt. We have to salt the nipple.

And oh my. She is chowing down. All right, and this is what we call communion. I guess, where's the mic here?

Did you take Catholic communion when you were a kid? Yes, I did. Was it anything like this? No, not at all.

I actually thought it was confirmed. You did, you got confirmed. I can just see you in a little confirmation dress. Gorgeous.

Okay, so now we do what we call waterboarding, bonobo style. You know what waterboarding is? I'm not talking about the kind the CIA do.

I don't think she knows it all. Okay, except I'm going to do it with this gun. Okay. Right?

Okay, I'm going to stick the gun in her mouth because it's so naughty. And I'm such a peacenik, but you have to open your legs, is that okay?

Yeah, there you go. Okay, and she's going to lean back between your legs, but she's going to sneak a kiss in first. Can you say that again?

Wait a minute. I'm down for anything. Good girl. Okay.

I like to do that. And now around we go. Ooh, she's taking another lick since you're down for anything. Couldn't help it.

She's so hungry. These are revolutionary acts, of course. Yes. They are.

And I think I'm down for anything. That was verbal consent. Pretty much. I think so.

There's an example for us. That certainly is. Turn around. See how I can talk?

Here we go. And now... We're all sitting there. Phoenix Dawn is going to get water-boarded,

bonobo style. And tonight we're doing it with a gun, okay? And, like I always say, shoot water guns, not real guns, okay?

Chee-chee-chee-chee-chee. She says... Okay. there was booze in that water gun it wasn't water no that wasn't water no but

you knew that wasn't water she has a cleansed pound and she is over 21 you can't have that but you were a fabulous altar girl and can we have a hand for L and Phoenix and also of course our cheerleaders here Jenna Rotten and Susanna Briss and that's me cheering for hotness right right what religion did you

grow up with I grew up I went to a religious orthodox Jewish Jewish right eight years my parents weren't religious but I went to a religious school yeah wow like like Lubabacher yeah like Lubabacher yeah it did not work on me no no in fact the opposite yes maybe contributed to your kinkiness I think I

mean you see that a lot I think I think religion to kinkiness what about you Jenna what I was raised non-denominational okay which is why not that a lot of Bible school oh a lot of Bible school okay it was more conservative in my family my parents were young and they were the each other's only partner so

there was kind of an irrealistic unrealistic expectation of monogamy which I was not going to have well very bonobo okay so we've got to go very soon but we're gonna be back with Phoenix Dawn and Elva Neva and Susanna Brisk the sexual intuitive and Domina Jenna Rotten and me so don't come yet and don't go away we'll

be right back hi I'm Dr. Susan Block and I've just written a new book called the inspired by my love for the make love not war great apes you know the ones who have a lot of sex in a bonobo sutra of positions including face-to-face but it's not just how bonobos have sex it's how they use sex to prevent murder and

war really they're the only great apes that have never been seen killing each other they practice what I call peace through pleasure with the females gently dominating the very happy very sexually satisfied males bonobos are special partly because they just are and partly because they're very very

close to us almost 99% genetically similar to us when it comes to being human even being humane bonobos can teach us so much which brings me to us and more specifically to you is your inner bonobo longing to swing free would you like to tap into the hot natural sex energy within you that you would so you can better

enjoy the pleasures in life and cope with the pain you know the pain and have more orgasmic organic sustainable sex who doesn't want that greater lust greater trust and better anger management and who couldn't use a little bit of that these days so get the book learn the bonobo way you'll be glad you did then

you'll want to join bonoboville a new global village for bonobo lovers and friends and one last thing the real bonobos are highly endangered so a portion of all book sales go to bonobo conservation groups working to save the wild bonobos from extinction read the bonobo way and learn why this could

be the most important eco sexual movement of our times and improve your love life and now here she is dr. Susan block we are back here in cathedral of the little church of bonoboville I am the irreverent dr. Susan block this is my guest roster right here fabulous guests including miss Jen Arotten who has

stripped down considerably yes it's hot oh yeah I'm squirting people with the water pistol you know hey shoot water pistols not real pistols make love not war and this is Elle Voneva and she would we get a microphone please I'm gonna have to spank some tech people okay okay this one is here how many there should

be four microphones okay one two three all right we're gonna have to get a missing microphone are they turned on are they turned on sorry this is my song baby might need you to come out here is that better yes better we are gonna say that dr. Susan that this is a fantastic way to spend a Saturday night isn't it

well you're welcome to join me on Saturday night I'm I'm here I'm here you're here are you always that I owe some of your friends that are just hanging out in the audience so you know yeah the bell just a scene here well the Belgians whatever you know they're Belgian they're Belgian they had to go back maybe they

were offended when I talked about the Congo but anyway so we're here and we're queer get used to it and and so we're talking about a lot of things but one of the things is how to get laid using your intuition and this is a great book I I read it in one day actually yesterday I read it yesterday I did I read it

thoroughly she reads all the books and I do well not all but most almost all it you know sometimes I've had surprise authors it's not quite unnerving as surprise sex boredom but it can be unnerving when you get somebody's this and by the way here's my book okay well so I don't talk about it then but this book was very

interesting I really liked a lot of the terminology like psychic shrapnel psychic shrapnel really did read my book tell me what that is okay so I like to take home a coffee what I call that is like so there's shrapnel which is the fragments of a bomb that are not the bomb but they can still kill you right so

the shrapnel certainly hurt you it's the collateral damage in other words of the torture loops in your psyche right so there's stuff that maybe you have basically negative thought patterns or trauma or things that have happened to people that have impacted their sexuality and they stick around like

shrapnel of the psyche and they just kind of spraying around in your brain and come from trauma yes abuse or just your religion yes yes or some kind of shame that you've internalized like even your parents says to you you know your parent catches you masturbating and they go you know don't do that or you know

don't touch yourself that's bad or say ice you know rips you from your parents and throws you into a cage that's an example of something yes so but I do talk later in the book about how trauma can actually be a gift to intuition but that's too long to explain well I think any bad thing has a silver lining if you

can survive it it can make you stronger yes and if you can survive anything that you know hinders your sexuality you can turn it into something that empowers you or turns you on or at least enlightens you but with the psychic shrapnel it's a lot of the time it can be like disturbing thoughts right so

people will come to me with like disturbing violent or sexual thoughts that they're worried that they're going to act on or they're just worried why am I having these thoughts and so I have like a particular method that I use to to help people through them which again is a little hard to encapsulate in a sound

bite like you said we live in a sound bite culture this is not a sound bite show no okay good so so basically it's to relate to these pieces of psychic shrapnel just as that as like you know when you live in an old in a city and sometimes like in LA you come across these old train tracks and they're just

there they don't lead anywhere anymore but nobody's ripped them out because of the expense of ripping them out it's just easier to just leave them and you just see them and you go okay they're not going anywhere and you just kind of go around them so this is the analogy that I give people when they're

dealing with this psychic shrapnel is it's all about the relationship that you develop with these thoughts the more disturbed you are about the thoughts the worst that they're going to get the better relationship the more neutral observing perceptive relationship you have with these thoughts the more

likely they are to kind of get bored with you and and just kind of you know die down that's what there is all about well at least part of partly about is you know kind of getting acquainted with your issues and taking some of the power out of them by just accepting them and maybe you can integrate them into

your sex life and maybe they are best left in the realm of fantasy depending yes yeah there are ways to integrate them in a healthy way of course there are yes of course there are but sometimes those ways can seem very very far away especially if you're in a small town and everybody knows you and you

go to a church and it can be difficult it can be difficult or synagogue or temple or whatever you go to mosque and it's not the church of goddess yeah yeah it can be it can be really difficult and yet it's all about just getting acquainted with your psychic shrapnel yes so it doesn't kill you yes if you

do then it won't kill you there you go all right so you got any psychic shrapnel I'm not sure I know what that means right well we tried to explain it but that's okay it's like something okay you know what I thought it's like bad thoughts that just keep coming and coming and coming and coming yeah yeah yeah well most normal

trauma it's a normal normal you know what experience civilization education is traumatizing yes right it's all traumatizing when the trees like the bonobos I think so we all get educated and we have to because otherwise we don't survive in this society and it's traumatizing and then sometimes we have

extra trauma from you know people we trust from life right I don't know when they were looking at each other frankly yeah well no I mean you know we go back and forth here we we do like that with the it's a it's a mind the holistic genitals yes and speaking to the genitals I'm more into the tactile world the tactile world

we're about to enter that world and then there's so can I get you to change places yes possible of course a little surprise here and you're gonna I mean we do have some interest in having a new experience L would like to ride the motor bunny yeah right yes okay that was an enthusiastic consent and and Jenna would kind of like

to get you ready for that I was also thinking that if you like having your nipples played with you could ride the bunny and I could do some nipple play on you love it all go at the same time and get yourself in the position you can still have your nipples stimulated that'd be awesome thank you I don't think

anybody has a complaint about that not a problem like medium light pressure medium do you want to be on that side we're gonna move the bunny up here oh you're gonna move the bunny yeah okay no more I'm just like I don't want to get in the way of the body wouldn't be in the way of the bunny okay actually you're gonna sit

okay okay okay this is a machine of great power and you know it's it's not the kind of you're not going to use the microphone okay so we're going to here okay I'm doing a little assistant work here motor bunny onto the bath stick and this is now a physical challenge but we're up to it do you want the controls

I guess I'll take the controls I'm so controlling we're gonna put this on the bed right here right right here yeah yeah it's happening right now and I have the controls here so you can have this in the back right and then and we are going to apply the protection it's like a condom but it's called saran wrap you

might be familiar with that we are safe bunnying everybody we're going to be wrapping the entire motor bunny who right okay this is this is exciting with saran wrap who was the last person to use the saran wrap and left it all and there we go all in it up okay here we go and grab one end and around we go we are

wrapping that motor bunny and I have to say that little L is looking rather excited giggling and her eyes are glowing yeah I've tried this before it feels amazing you tried it before but only we had two hours darling right no I think this will this will be faster all right it's a vibrator a really strong one too

oh okay okay that's enough of the yeah we don't want it to covered up here okay so maybe Phoenix you could hold the mic for Mistress Jenna Domina Jenna and now would you like to remove your little pantyhose there and your sneakers yeah that's so cute wearing sneakers right not as cute as the lady on the Statue of Liberty who

wore pink sneakers but very cute and your butt is extremely cute oh my goddess that is amazing look at that but okay and there is Miss Jenna taking little sweet L over her knee right right toe and she's giving her a little spanking you just put her in a little headlock and right you look very maternal with her

yeah big and bucks and feeding into so many fetish fantasies of all different science what could I teach the little girl how to do well she hasn't been naughty so I guess this is what they call a maintenance spanking accountability spankings are also by the way as long as we're doing the spanking I do what I

say she's been bad at all I think she's been very very good and our next issue of our new magazine Dr. Susie's speakeasy journal which was designed by our other Aussie in the room which is Clemi cockatoo and of course Maximilian is the executive publisher and he's published many other magazines including Annie

Sprinkles first publication what a legend yes max are you here yeah I'm here right I'm listening to this wonderful story oh yes I've published love and finger and sprinkle the sprinkle report sprinkle report and now the speakeasy journal and this issue is on splosh and art and our next issue is on spanking

for adults only of course so I think you might make it into the spanking issue I would love that years and years of spanking the evolution of spanking here and actually I've had reports that people can have orgasms involved yeah absolutely I could if it was like light ones oh someone's topping from the

bottom oh yeah I wouldn't really consider this doming this is more of that foreplay you were talking about when the bonobos get each other ready fun together yeah yeah yeah girls play with each other and the younger girls come and they play with the older girls that's kind of what I was also led to believe

the younger yes female bonobos migrate so that they can go to the new tribe and they do the hoka-hoka that's right the women in the new tribe and that's how they get accepted she knows her bonobo way doing her hoka-hoka to put in her work right now okay and that's a fun thing about spanking is that it well

it's not intercourse but it is a thing pretty soon because I want to see her squirming yeah it gets you ready it's like a warm-up okay so here you go and up oh my god yes I did get a very nice oh my god and here she is this lovely L Zenova okay we're getting this motor bunny started you're feeling it a little bit okay

here let me get this microphone here yep yep we're getting there we're getting you might want to hold the microphone for Jenna while right over there thank you yeah I don't really want to hold this microphone though because I'm saying Phoenix would hold it for you Phoenix you should hold it for me I need both hands for these

I'm controlling the vibration good good good vibrations and here she is L Voneva is blasting off into the motor bunny yonder do you want more yes yes ma'am look at your face we need to zoom in on her face right now yeah because then but you can find those cameras move in you guys look

beautiful face come on tight close close like you're making love that yeah that closer closer yeah yeah fill up that screen yeah okay baby nice oh bonobos on that motor bunny oh yeah let it go she likes it when I push her pussy down onto it she's getting more of a forced orgasm type of like it's just a little girl and

she's not going anywhere I love your face I want to see you look like that all the our fuck energy is rising go ahead we go wash the sheets squirt squirt I can feel it through my hair oh yeah it's hot lord and lady

Houston we have orgasm maybe not yet oh yeah that's okay she's just edging herself now can I take my time please yeah I'm gonna bring it down now take a breather take a breather I can take more okay spread open pretty so sexy so hot oh my god I don't even feel that how's that it's still alive down there we good

and so we're gonna keep doing this uh for several hours so I don't know if you want to just talk amongst yourselves nothing to see here no I think we all are gonna give a big hand that was nice El Vaneva Phoenix is getting a little snack oh Phoenix is having a little snack here and we're gonna keep going this general well you want to

keep going yes I can okay sure sure sure here she is just riding that motor bunny just rubbing that juicy little pussy all over that sort of protrusion as Jenna pushes the vulva down there is no actual penetration going on here just pushing it right down pushing that split right down on that vibrating motor bunny

oh yeah oh feel it oh you feel it so yeah you're oh you're a little bitch look at that third eye right there bullseye yeah wow you are just feeling those vibrations so strong right through you do you need some help with that little girl yes we need a report how you're feeling I'm feeling really good yeah she says can I take it home yes can I take it home

I guess you're gonna need to how long would you like to ride this thing like a few days yeah I think she wants to be alone with it for hours in the dark yeah you rode a candle but not this long yeah yeah just for a few seconds it's a pretty sensitive right in here yeah you know it was on so strong maybe you know

sometimes orgasm is a thing that you build build build up to and then you come and sometimes you kind of go over it and you don't come yeah I think that's what happened because it's so strong I think I just got numb but I still feel it it's just you'll come later that's not all sex has to end in orgasm it can just be pleasure you did what you were talking about you seemed

like you were having pleasure but not quite having an orgasm and maybe it's not just about physical activity but about being amongst all these people you know energy sexy people right all these sexy people can be distracting from just your clit just clenching and releasing in your wide-eyed a slack jawed audience drooling for your but you know what I really appreciate about

you other than you're just gorgeous that you're not like faking an orgasm I was just gonna say that yeah yeah yeah yeah that would be easy to do to just say oh yeah I came and I like this I want to stay longer well I know and I I would have you stay as long as you want and actually we're gonna have an after party you can ride this like all all through the after party but we are gonna have

to you know wind up the show soon so that's why I can't just completely have you ride it and to infinity right now but you can stay there on you can sit on it I just think how much time do I have left I have no minutes what what does that mean well okay so then I have two minutes that's not go go go go go okay so uh you know I got the sign up here Susan 10 minutes 10 minutes

you have 10 minutes that's quite a bit more than two but okay okay wrong information all right forward are you ready to relax now for 10 minutes yeah so uh let's close up we're gonna close up so uh let's see can I talk to her for a little bit I want to ask you some things can I ask you some things yeah okay so what do you find erotic can I ask her yeah yeah

you oh okay what do I find erotic yeah what's in your head when you are getting off yeah oh my gosh I don't even know what to say I mean do you like someone being in charge of you do you like being submissive is that a thing um I'm actually a switch but it's easy for me to be a submissive with strangers interesting yeah I could become a dom with like someone that I know and trust

and have really strong chemistry with or like with hate sex hate sex underrated with angry sex yeah that's okay you know bonobos have angry sex sometimes it's okay to do that they they make up sex and I think too when you're really young and pretty and there's a lot of people that uh want to have sex with you and do all these things with you you sometimes don't know what you like

because you're very busy you know being beautiful and and living out other people's fantasies but that doesn't mean you won't learn what you like as life goes on but it makes sense that you might not know yeah and you know porn does help well porn helps in a way I mean everything has it's good and it's bad the good thing about porn is it opens you up and allows you to explore

all different things and there's not a lot of shame involved but the bad thing if there's a bad thing is that you might just take on what other people want to the point that you don't know what you want exactly so always try to tune in to that intuition yeah to that feeling of what you want and it might not be easy to hear that when you're young and but as you get older it'll

be a stronger voice within you yeah amen amen and amen and thank you very much for kind of inspiring me to come into that susanna brisk you should get her book am I sitting on it yeah I think I've applied some personal to it and it's how to get laid using your intuition by susanna brisk and she is also a counselor a sexual intuitive thank you so much for having me it's been

such a joy to meet you and spend time with you all of you thank you my pleasure certainly and uh and thank you miss el thank you thanks for having me you did a great job thank you you're very willing thank you and it was my pleasure and thank you miss jenna giving you pleasure rotten and everybody here is on twitter and fake well you're not on facebook right no I only have a twitter I try not

to use social media okay well that's probably good for you he helps you keep in touch with your intuition because social media is very distracting so but y'all can get in touch with them through social media and you should read the book learn more about bdsm and check out el she is a hot up-and-coming porn star come here somewhere you know where is she where is she I don't know

she's applying her footwear one at a time very carefully this alright so I think I have to give you a spanking so yeah of course bend over please bend over that's a good girl you are very naughty for various things we're all good but I had erased the sexy I relieved my tension by giving you a good spanking with goddess phoenix's neon whip you got two minutes and everybody check out cosmo

july issue for domination um 101 and keep it sexy and uh of course the bonobo way brothers and sisters lovers and sinners has never been more important to our well-being our female empowerment our our males our peace through pleasure we need to learn pleasure the bonobos yes indeed you like the bonobo so make like bonobos not baboons use your intuition and that means just get in touch with

and make love not war make love to someone you love tonight even if that's someone is you yay I love you someone about some you can talk to us I'm Dr. Susan Block your mistress of the but my day job is director of the Dr. Susan Block Institute for the erotic arts and sciences specializing in sex therapy over the phone anytime you need to talk whether you need serious

psychotherapy or a hot phone sex experience or a combination my world-renowned telephone sex therapists are just a phone call away totally private absolutely confidential listen talk with you advise you role play for you fantasize with you no fantasy is too taboo and help you with anything from impotence to exhibitionism fears to desires fetishes to marriages for more

information call us at 213-291-9497 that's 213-291-9497 anytime you're listening to radio suzi one on the worldwide web need to talk with someone about something you can't talk about with anyone else you can talk with us I'm Dr. Susan Block your mistress of the airwaves but my day job is director of the Dr. Susan Block Institute for the erotic arts and sciences

specializing in sex therapy over the phone anytime you need to talk whether you need serious psychotherapy or a hot phone sex experience or a combination my world-renowned telephone sex therapists are just a phone call away totally private absolutely confidential we listen talk with you advise you role play for you and fantasize with you

and no fantasy is too taboo and we help you with anything from impotence to exhibitionism fears to desires fetishes to marriages if you've never called before don't be embarrassed we all need help with sex at one time or another even world leaders do maybe especially world leaders do but I'm not going to tell you which ones so when you need to ask a question

or play out a fantasy or just talk with someone about something you can't talk about with anyone else call us at 213-291-9497 anytime you need to talk hi I'm Dr. Susan Block and I've just written a new book called the bonobo way inspired by my love for the make love not war great apes you know the ones who have a lot of sex in a bonobo sutra of positions including face to face

but it's not just how bonobos have sex it's how they use sex to prevent murder and war really they're the only great apes that have never been seen killing each other they practice what I call peace through pleasure with the females gently dominating the very happy very sexually satisfied males bonobos are special partly because they just are and partly because

they're very very close to us almost 99 percent genetically similar to us when it comes to being human even being humane bonobos can teach us so much which brings me to us and more specifically to you is your inner bonobo longing to swing free would you like to tap into the hot natural sex energy within you that you would so you can better enjoy the pleasures in life and cope with the pain

you know the pain and have more orgasmic organic sustainable sex who doesn't want that greater lust greater trust and better anger management and who couldn't use a little bit of that these days so get the book learn the bonobo way you'll be glad you did then you'll want to join bonoboville a new global village for bonobo lovers and friends and one last thing the real

bonobos are highly endangered so a portion of all book sales go to bonobo conservation groups working to save the wild bonobos from extinction read the bonobo way and learn why this could be the most important eco sexual movement of our times and improve your love life