by Dr. Susan Block. Once again, The Bonobo Way is bound for DomCon LA, going for our fourth notch in the big, thick, silver-studded belt of the largest professional and lifestyle BDSM, kink and fetish convention in the world. Therefore, this live show is mostly a rehearsal for my talk, “The Bonobo Way: FemDoms of the Wild” which I am honored to have been invited to deliver to the good Mistresses, Madams, Masters, Goddesses, Queens, subbies and puppies of DomCon 2019 this coming Saturday at 1 PM PST in Room BI of the LAX Hilton Hotel.

It’s the first Saturday night of Self-Love September which is, according to the Internet, more about noble ideals of self-improvement than the earthy reality of self-pleasure. This may be because the monthly designation has only been around for a few years (in contrast, May as Masturbation Month goes back to 1994), or it may be because endorsing the benefits of solo sex is still very taboo. I understand “self-love” means a range of different things. One common #SelfLoveSeptember maxim is to “accept that although we will always be less than perfect, we are works in progress that deserve to be loved.” Fair enough, though kind of banal. Moreover, in my not-so-humble opinion, if self-love doesn’t include a little quality masturbation time (which could include mutual masturbation, if you have a lover), you’re not fully loving yourself.